No big moves if your ring finger's still naked.(Knight Ridder Newspapers)

Byline: Tara Solomon

Dear Advice Diva:

My boyfriend suggested I write you. We are both in our mid-40s. He has two young teens and I have a 12-year-old. We met in the neighborhood and live a few blocks from each other. We have been sweethearts for about a year and a half. Here's the rub: I live in a large house, have no mortgage, low taxes and my 83-year-old mother lives next door. She is entirely independent and it is a joy for me and my son to have such easy access to her. There are no privacy issues.

The central problem is that my boyfriend says he would ''NEVER!'' live in my house because he says he would never feel a sense of ownership. Maybe this is a gender issue; maybe he wants to feel dominant. He says we …