Court order can require husband to be tested for HIV.(Knight Ridder Newspapers)

Q. After being married for only nine months, I discovered that my husband is a homosexual and has had a number of relationships with other men. Needless to say, I have been very concerned about sexually transmitted diseases. When he refused to be tested, I left him and became even more concerned. How can I force him to take the tests so that I can have peace of mind?

A. While your concerns are definitely warranted, without your husband's consent or a court order, you will not be able to require that he be tested. Since you say his consent is unlikely, your only other option is to bring marital litigation. By so doing, you can use the discovery rules that, in most states, will allow your lawyer to ask a family court judge to …