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How To Say You're Sorry.(Interview)
Byline: INTERVIEWS BY BROOKE LE POER TRENCH AND DANIELLE PERGAMENT
Tips on hosting a poker party, improving your handwriting, saying you're sorry, and more.
An Interview With Paul Slansky
Slansky is the coauthor, with Arleen Sorkin, of My Bad: The Apology Anthology (Bloomsbury USA).
Apologizing is by definition a humbling experience. If you can swallow your pride and offer a well-intentioned "I'm sorry," people are usually forgiving. And hey, if they're not, you can always take back your apology.
Act now. Come forward as soon as you know you've gaffed--the longer you wait, the bigger the apology gets. Before you know it, you're apologizing for the tardiness of the apology. That said, there are times you might want to wait and see if the other person took offense. You don't want to say "Hey, really sorry about that rude thing I did" if the person didn't notice. When it can slide, let it slide.
Face up to it. You screwed up--the least you can do is say so in person. An email won't cut it. Take Mel Gibson--after his debacle, he issued a press release, which isn't exactly the epitome of soul-searching, heartfelt humility. He got slammed for not apologizing personally and had to beg for forgiveness all over again.
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