"My husband was a pervert but I din't know it" ... and other shockers: three smart, savvy women were married to men who led dangerous secret lives. One husband robbed banks, another hoarded child pornography, and the third was having sex with men and gave his wife HIV. Here, the wives bare all about their betrayals.(REAL LIVES)

Laurie's husband's secret: HE WAS A CHILD PORNOGRAPHER

My husband, John, wasn't just interested in kinky sex. He became consumed by it, spending so much time online visiting porn sites that everything else fell by the wayside. I knew that something was wrong: The mortgage hadn't been paid in months, and his consulting business was on the verge of collapse.

When his business partner called to say he needed a file on the computer in John's home office, I gave him the whole computer. I knew John would be furious, but I also secretly hoped that getting rid of the computer might change our lives. I was right, it did--but not in the way I had expected.

John and I met through mutual friends at Kent State University. We started dating in 1996 and wed a year after graduation. After we were married, John began interning at a law firm. I attributed the long hours he spent online to his work--until the day he told me what he had really been doing: visiting pornography sites and sex chat rooms. John was excited about "swinging" and wanted us to try it. On one occasion, I thought we were simply meeting some new friends, but John had told them that we were into swinging. When I found out what was going on, I freaked out and locked myself in the bathroom.

Despite my uneasiness, John continued to pressure me to swing. I tried to keep an open mind, but I soon realized it just wasn't for me. And the more obsessed John became with group sex and cyberporn, the less he was interested in sex with me.

When I discovered that John hadn't limited his thrills to the Internet and had actually had affairs, I left. Weeks later, though, I reconsidered and decided to try and keep our…