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Your first-date mistakes: screwup-proof your initial encounter by avoiding these common chick flubs. (His Point Of View).(Brief Article)
* True, a first date is the make-or-break opportunity to test your chemistry together, based on everything from the dinner-table banter to the good-bye kiss. But while you're sweating over details like picking out the perfect shoes and crafting the wittiest comebacks imaginable, you may be overlooking the things he's really observing. Here's what matters when it comes to judging your second-date potential.
being rude to the waiter
Even if a waiter obnoxiously corrects your pronunciation of the fancy boeuf entree or ignores your empty water glass, being dismissive will make your date wonder if you'll treat him that way after a while. "When a woman is rude to the waiter on a first date, I take it as a sign that she's either a snob or really impatient, neither of which is an attractive trait," says Jack *, 28.
dissing your own life
There are probably areas of your life that you think are lacking, but whatever you do, don't let on to that truth during a first date. A guy may translate snips like "All I do is work" or "I don't really date much" into "I'm a pessimistic, boring loser, and I'm going to rely on you to liven up my dead life." As Mark, 29, points out, "When a girl is going off about how sucky her life is, I usually sit there thinking, Rather than bitch about it, why don't you actually do something about it?" Certain rants are especially kryptonite-like, such as whining about never being hit on by the right men or, worse, bitching about your fam. "I've learned that most women who complain about their parents are miserable people," says Bill, 23. Kvetching about your current state of affairs will make him question whether you'll bring anything to the table other than negativity.
not thanking him for dinner
Sounds simple. And it is, which is why forgetting to thank a guy for picking up the tab is a slap in the face. "It makes it seem like she takes generosity for granted and wouldn't be grateful for other things I did for her," says Max, 32. You may think sufficient gratitude is expressed in offering to chip in for the bill, ...
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