How to break the last sex taboo: the final bastion of bedroom bliss? Claiming your climax even if he crosses the carnal finish line first. Read on to ensure you're both satisfied every time. (Sex Lessons).(Brief Article)

* Unless you're the luckiest chick on earth, you're familiar with the following sexual scenario: being right on the verge of ecstasy only to have your partner sprint ahead and reach nooky nirvana first. The typical end result? He basks in the glow of satisfaction while you climb the nearest wall.

Well, it's time to end this frustrating, not to mention unfair, mating ritual. Think about it: How many guys would roll over before exhausting every possible route to orgasm? Exactly. "Women have traditionally been afraid to ask for what they want in bed because they think it will upset men," says Betty Dodson, Ph.D., author of Sex for One and the upcoming Sex for Two. Forget that! Here's how to get what you desire--and deserve--in bed.

understand that he wants you to have one

To most guys, your satisfaction is just as important--if not more--than their own. "Much of a man's sense of masculinity depends on his ability to please you," explains Gloria G. Brame, Ph.D., author of Come Hither: A Commonsense Guide to Kinky Sex. "Every guy wants to say to himself, `Wow, I really made her feel amazing.'"

So why, then, do so many guys have a rep for being selfish in the sack? They may truly believe that your sighs, moans, and groans mean you've gotten off too. So unless you level with your lover, he may not even realize that you didn't get to enjoy a peak performance. "I never wanted to hurt Eric's ego by telling him he wasn't n raking me see fireworks, but I think it started to affect my personality," says Samantha *, 22. "When we broke up, he told me, `What happened to you--you used to be so nice!'" Says Dodson: "Of course a woman who keeps becoming aroused without orgasm is going to get bitchy! It's up to you to tell your man what you need."

pulling off the proposal

To take the pressure off, try ...