How to reach the deepest level of love.(sexual bonding)

Make your romance go from so-so to smokin'. From sharing your own naughty secret to staging an all-day sexfest, these simple moves will bring you and your man closer than ever (carnally and otherwise).

* You probably know that the two most fundamental elements of a great relationship are a strong emotional tie and a crackling carnal connection. But here's a news flash: Not only can you fuel the sexual fire between you and your mate by strengthening that bond of intimacy, but the more you learn to let go with each other sexually, the deeper your love will become. According to Barbara Keesling, Ph.D., author of The Good Girl's Guide to Bad-Girl Sex, learning to facilitate the link between the emotional and physical aspects of your union can bring you to a level only the luckiest couples ever achieve. "In order to have superhot sex, you need to be able to share your wildest desires as well as your insecurities. And actually experiencing sex with that level of closeness will only intensify your love." Ready to reap the benefits of this bond-boosting, bedroom-rocking relationship? Don't take our word for it: Dive into these love-deepening suggestions and find out for yourself.

LUST LESSON 1

Offer Him an All-Access Pass

Do you always slide on a pair of boxers before you step out of bed because you fear your guy will spy a dent or two in your derriere? Or do you push his hand away every time he tries to touch your less-than-bodacious breasts? Almost every woman has at least one spot on her body that she thinks is lacking, but trying to avert attention from that angst-inspiring zone can be a major lovemaking hindrance.

To bust through that bliss barrier, surprise your beau by offering up the body part you normally keep under wraps. "Most women have a lower opinion of their own bodies than their partners do of them," says Pat Love, author of The Truth About Love. In other words, what you consider to be a major flaw probably hasn't even registered on his radar. So bite the bullet and drop the sheets or turn on the lights--whatever it takes to truly expose yourself (physically and emotionally). Chances are, your man will respond with ubridled enthusiasm, and realizing that nothing bad will result from your unveiling is the first step toward shrinking your inhibitions. "My high school boyfriend once told me that I had saggy boobs," says Julia [*], 28. "I don't think he realized how much that off-hand comment affected me. From then on, I always tried to avoid letting my boyfriends see my breasts. But one day, I decided I was tired of feeling ashamed and allowed Dan, my current guy, to explore my body. Instead of blocking his ha nds, I actually guided them to my breasts. He told me that he'd never been so turned on and that I drove him crazy with desire. Opening up about something I'd been bashful about for so long and not being rejected because of it made me realize I could trust him with anything It made me feel much closer to and more comfortable with him...and myself."

LUST LESSON 2