Sex that brings you closer: great sex can be sweaty and a little bit wicked, but with these lips, it can also be damn romantic. Don't worry--we're not gonna tell you to sprinkle the bed with rose petals.(Love & Lust)

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Wild hookups that make you wish you had soundproof walls and indestructible bedsprings are a blast, but you probably sometimes crave sex that enhances the emotional and mental closeness between you and your guy. And although it seems like a no-brainer that intimacy is important, unfortunately, it's all too often missing in action.

"People tend to become so focused on the physical mechanics involved in reaching orgasm that they tune out their partner in the process," says sex therapist Joy Davidson, PhD, author of Fearless Sex. As a result, you may end up feeling disconnected.

So we're going to let you in on how to boost romance. "The key to truly sensual sex is engaging with each other at every stage of the action so that you feel like you're a single unit, rather than two separate entities," Davidson explains. Here's how to get there.

Drown Out Pesky Distractions

Before you start getting into it, quickly eliminate clutter--shut your closet door, stash junk--and if you live on a busy street, close the windows. A clean, calm setting will 'allow you and your guy to focus on each other.

Also, light a couple of candles or tuna on the light in an adjacent room, then leave the door open to subtly illuminate the room you're in.