How to deal with a moody man: even good guys can be testy, but that's no consolation. Resist killing him and follow this advice.(Love & Lust)

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It's women who have the rep for being the moody sex, but in reality, experts say, guys also have big swings. "Men act differently than women do in a funk, so it's not always obvious what's going on," says Darlene Mininni, PhD, author of The Emotional Toolkit. We collected the best tactics for figuring out and dealing with his cranky frame of mind.

ID His Temperamental Type

Grumpy guys fall into two groups. The first is the sort who has the occasional bad day--he gets frustrated when his team loses a game or he has a crappy work experience.

Then there's the guy who rides an emotional roller coaster several times weekly. This second breed regularly allows disappointing events to send him into a downward spiral. Clearly, he's sensitive, which isn't always a bad thing: "He may be able to pick up on cues when you're upset," says Terry Real, author of I Don't Want to Talk About It.

Learn to Read Him

While women readily tend to spill what's bothering them, guys are more prone to withdrawing and displacing their feelings by having odd or inappropriate reactions to small things. "Your boyfriend is unlikely to admit he's upset he didn't get promoted," says Real. ...