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Why guys hate needy chicks: there's a fine line between showing your desire for a new dude and suffocating him. We explain how you can strike the right balance.(COSMO NEWS: Relationships)
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When actress Jennifer Aniston and musician John Mayer called it quits this past summer, tabloid sources claimed that Jen's neediness is what had her rocker beau bolting in less than four months.
Although much has been said about how independent young women are today (they outearn their male peers in many big cities, freely indulge in reaching the peak of pleasure solo--you get the idea), clearly there are still some chicks who turn into cling-ons when they're in the throes of a new relationship. The problem, according to psychotherapist Susan Axtell, PsyD, is that "guys are repelled by neediness because it hints at a woman's insecurity."
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To be fair, it's normal to feel a little insecure when you first start dating someone because the relationship's status is so up in the air, says Debbie Magids, PhD, coauthor of All the Good Ones Aren't Taken. The trouble arises when you allow that anxiety to seep out. "Asking probing questions about a guy's daily whereabouts and activities are red flags to him. Coming on that strong makes it more likely that you'll trigger his rejection reflex," says relationship expert Gary Stollman, PhD. "Also, getting ...
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