The sex habit you should break--now: has your lust life as a couple tone from OMFG to WTF? Here's advice for keeping bedtime superhot.(LOVE AND LUST)

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* In the first breathless weeks and months of a relationship, having fun in bed is usually not a problem (well, unless you consider getting very little sleep a problem). But, say many sex therapists, if you were to ask longer-term couples to rate their sex lives from 1 to 10, plenty of them would admit the supersteamy 9s and 10s have sunk to lukewarm 5s or 6s.

Did they fall out of love? Lose the attraction? Nope--more likely, they simply allowed the first (and possibly most crucial) turning point in their sex lives slip by unnoticed.

When couples first get together, they tend to be more experimental because they're sussing out each other's likes and dislikes, says Lori Buckley, PhD, sex therapist in Pasadena, California. But between six months and a year in, she says, things can go on autopilot. "Couples begin to get into a groove. They get comfortable and subconsciously default to whatever works." But there's working, and then there's awesome. To keep things in that second category, try these boredom-busting ideas.

Break the Mold

Think about how your usual sack sessions unfold: You start making out. He takes off your top. Then he kisses your nipples.... He could do it blindfolded. And you've done what to steer him differently?" Look at your own role in the routine," suggests Lori Hollander, MSW, licensed sex and couples therapist in Ann Arbor, Michigan. "By following his lead, you're ...