Ask him anything: advice from our guy guru, Jonathan Small.(LOVE AND LUST)

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[Q] I've been with my boyfriend for three years, and our sex life has always been bland. I fantasize about other men and situations, and when I'm alone, I look at porn and wish he'd do certain things to me. How can I convince him to?

[A] Whoa, three years is a long time to be having lame sex. Nevertheless, you can't completely blame your boyfriend. Assuming he's relatively happy with the status quo, he has little incentive to change his routine if you appear to be a satisfied customer.

That said, you can't just come out and tell him you think he's boring. He'll find that to be a serious betrayal and wonder why you've never said anything. Instead, why not suggest you watch some porn together? When you see something that turns you on, tell him that you'd like to try it with him and it'd make you feel hot if he did it to you.

Tread carefully, however, because you don't want him to get a complex about not being hung like Rex Hardwicke. You need to make sure everything you say is about what you want to do with your guy. During sex, show him what you like instead of waiting for him to figure it out magically. Then sing his praises when he does something you love. Porn + positive reinforcement = a perfect recipe for great sex.

WHAT'S THE DEAL?

[Q] My man only calls me Baby in bed. He claims saying my name makes him think of his aunt, who has the same first name. But could he be doing It so he doesn't call out the name of another girl with whom he's cheating?