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If he stops wanting sex, something is wrong: everyone has off nights, but not every night. We help you get to the bottom of his lost libido.(LOVE AND LUST)
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* Early on in a relationship, you and your guy spend so much time in bed, there's little point in even making it. Then as the mouths and years go by, the sex tends to fall off some--a perfectly normal side effect of the decreased hormones that are often the result of increased closeness. But that doesn't mean it should nosedive until you have hardly any sex ... ever. Some women chalk up a significant decline in bedroom action to their long-term status, but that's a big mistake. "Most men in their 20s and 30s have strong libidos," says Debbie Magids, PhD, coauthor of All the Good Ones Aren't Taken. "So if there is a lack of sex drive, it's a clear symptom that something is going on either in his life or in your relationship."
We've compiled the five most common sex-drive busters and arranged them in order from the manageable to the totally dire. Start with the first, and eliminate them one by one until you figure out what's going on. Then follow the advice for how to deal.
He's Stressed Out
"Feeling overwhelmed, tired, or stressed will lower a man's sex drive," explains Jay Carter, PsyD, author of Nasty Men. So if he has taken on extra work at his job or has family drama swirling around him, his brain may be too fried to even think about nooky. What to do" Don't reveal that you've noticed his stress level negatively affecting your sex life; if he has to think about your being unsatisfied on top of everything else, he'll just get more anxious. "Be understanding, give him a neck rub, or play some calming music when he gets home," suggests certified sex therapist Joy Davidson, PhD. Feeling more relaxed will allow him to think about getting it on again.
He's Pissed Off at You
Contrary to popular belief, guys don't always rant and rave when they're angry. Sometimes they retaliate by quietly pulling away--which can mean withholding sex. "Anger is corrosive to intimacy," Davidson points out.
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