Ask him anything: advice from our guy guru, Jonathan Small.(LOVE AND LUST)

Q My guy kisses me good-bye, but otherwise, he doesn't like to kiss unless We're going to have sex. We have great chemistry, and-the-kissing, when it happens, is amazing, So why doesn't lie like it, and how can I get him to do it more?

Q I'm going to be straight with you here: Maybe you have awful breath, because as anyone who has ever kissed a chain smoker or garlic aficionado knows, bad smells equal bad smooching. Or it simply may be the case that he's not into you enough to engage in a full-fledged make-out session.

On the other hand, perhaps the problem has nothing to do with you and everything to do with his own personal issues. Sure, kissing is technically first base sexually, but for many guys, it's closer to a home run when it comes to intimacy. You often reveal more about your feelings when kissing than you do when having sex.

Regardless, your best bet is to make making out as pleasurable for both of you as possible. If it's a breath issue, watch what you eat when you're with him. (Cosmo's beauty department recommends licking the back of your hand and smelling it for an easy breath check and wearing a mint-scented lip balm, like those made by C.O. Bigelow.) Also, tell him how much you like it when he kisses you on the neck or the cheek--those areas may be less intimidating for him to focus on at first.

Q I'm not saying I'm a prude in bed, but I've never done much mere than missionary. My boyfriend wants to spice things up, so I want to be more adventurous. What would be the best way to make him feel like we're being crazy without being tee crazy?.

A You might not say you're a prude in bed, so I'll do it for you: Only missionary ?!?! I don't blame your boyfriend for wanting to change up the routine and add some variety.

That said, I salute you for seeking out other options. A lot of people get stuck in a rut, but you want to dig yourself out ... and no guy could ask for more than that. But you need to ask yourself what you're afraid is going to happen if, say, you flip over and get on your hands and knees. Then decide what your comfort level is.