Advice guy pals want to give you: your male friends have great guidance to offer that you'd be crazy to ignore. We got them to share.(LOVE AND LUST)

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When it comes to dating and relationship issues, your guy buddies have tons of wisdom to dole out. You see, they don't have the problematic perspective that your girls do, who are so hopeful about a dude's potential that they may not see the situation clearly. But often, male friends hold back from dishing the truth because they don't want to make you feel bad. Here, they reveal scenarios their female pals are experiencing and advice they're dying to pound into their friends' brains.

* "My buddy Katie's boyfriend never talks to her when he's upset, and it really bugs her. What she doesn't realize is that most men learn to handle problems by sucking it up--otherwise, we're called wusses. Instead of trying to pry info out of him, give a guy room to breathe. Look, if he needs your advice, he'll find a way to bring it up."--Tyler, 25

* "My coworker Melanie complains that the men she dates seem into her, drop off the face of the earth for weeks, and then reappear like nothing happened. They blame it on being busy or use some other lame excuse, but honestly, dudes don't disappear when they're into you, since sex is always number one on our to-do list. If he vanishes for more than a week, odds are, he met someone he liked better or who required less work to get into bed. If he pops up again, you can bet that girl didn't work out and he's backtracking through his black book. My advice: Don't seem too eager early on. When he thinks you have other options, he'll be less likely to put you on bold."--Bernard, 24

* "The guy my friend Tanya is seeing talks to Iris ex about once a month, and she's stewing about it. I understand why she's pissed, but it doesn't mean he wants to get back with his old flame. The fact that he admits they're in touch is a clear sign nothing's going on; otherwise, he'd be secretive about it. Here's the deal: If their friendship is out in the open, he's probably turning to his ex for advice about you. If he only brings her up when he compares you to her during a fight or you catch him IMing her on the sly, then there's reason to confront him."--Shane, 26

* "One friend hits men with the 'Where is this going?' speech within the first month of dating. She doesn't want to waste time with the wrong dude, but trying to label things so soon can scare him off. A guy is usually a few months behind a chick when it comes to his feelings about a relationship. That's because many women start sleeping with a gray only after they have decided he has potential. But we don't start wondering if you're a keeper until we've gone to bed with you and things simmer down enough for us to know if we like you for more than just sex. When you're ready to take the next step, wait three months before asking if he's on the same page."--Derrick, 27

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