Ask him anything: advice from our guy guru.(LOVE AND LUST)

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Q The guy I'm seeing says he's been with lots women, but he's terrible about doing any kind foreplay. It seems like he just wants to skin right past it. Do guys with lots of experience get bored of having presex fun?

A Actually, the opposite is true. Guys with lots of experience tend to like foreplay, because they realize that hot foreplay often leads to hot sex. They also like to impress you with their vast arsenal of moves.

So why's he avoiding the pregame show? A few reasons come to mind. First, foreplay involves what are for men more intimate activities than sex--kissing, caressing, oral--and your guy may be uncomfortable with getting that close. (This is one of those strange differences between the sexes: A chick will go down on a guy before she has sex with him, but most guys consider giving oral way more personal.)

Alternatively, he may be cutting the fore out of the play simply because he wants to get off as soon as possible. Or he may love foreplay ... but just not with you.

Tell him how much you like specific aspects of foreplay, and ask him to slow clown to give you time to enjoy the experience. Then be sure to let him know--through actions, not words--that the more he turns you on before sex, the better it will be during sex. Eventually, you'll figure out if he's a foreplayer or foreplayer hater.

Q I'd been with my boyfriend for a year when I told him that I'd been faking orgasms the entire time we'd been together. It really hurt him, and he got mad. We haven't broken up, but we also haven't had sex for weeks. What can I do to make him want to again?