Paging the love doctor: answers to your most probing questions about celeb relationships from Beverly Hills psychotherapist Bella Dishell.(informer)(Brief article)(Column)

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Q: Catherine Heigl recently said she met her husband when she wasn't looking. Why does that always seem to happen?

LOVE DOCTOR: If your only focus is on finding a boyfriend, you run the risk of coming off as desperate, a vibe that repels guys. But when you feel at peace with yourself--and don't think so much about how others can make you happy--you exude confidence, which is a magnetic trait. The key to getting to that place is focusing on the things you have going for you and nurturing your interests rather than dwelling on what you lack.

Q: Jennifer Aniston has been single for a while. Should you ever tweak your standards to get back onto the dating scene?

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LOVE DOCTOR: Sometimes. You have to find a balance between whom you're attracted to physically and what you need. You may be drawn to wiry, blond guys, but you have to be willing to bend on that if you find a man who has key emotional traits that you're searching for, such as maturity and loyalty. ...