Three reasons relationships fail: the first step toward finding a love match that lasts? Figuring out your past mistakes. Let us help.(LOVE AND LUST)

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Dating guy after guy without any success in building a lasting relationship can be frustrating. But rather than groaning about how all men are jerks or that you must be fated to be single forever, you have to look at the common denominator in all your failed romances: you.

That sounds harsh, but it in no way means you're giving off man repellent. Rather, you're likely making a wrong move that inadvertently shuts down tile prospect of landing a steady dude who is right for you. "But if you step back and identify that error, you can address the problem," explains David Hawkins, PhD, author of Are You Really Ready for Love?

To make this process easier, we asked love experts to lay out the most common relationship mistakes young women make. Our quick fixes will help yon get on track toward becoming part of a couple.

RELATIONSHIP MISTAKE 1 You've Been Picking the Wrong Guys

There are probably certain nonnegotiable boyfriend attributes you're looking for--you should be attracted to him, and he should be going places in life. But lots of chicks forget to look at less obvious things that signal that you two will mesh, such as character traits and lifestyle habits. You're an early riser, for example, yet you go to late-night dive bars where you constantly meet rocker night owls. See the potential for a mismatch here?

"It's not that you're picking men who won't make good boyfriends; they just aren't good boyfriend material for you," explains Tina B. Tessina, PhD, author of The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again. One possible reason: You obsess over how a potential suitor feels about you rather than determining whether he fits into your life. "Women worry so much about a guy's impression of them that they overlook certain qualities he has that make a big impact later on," says Tessina.