Ask him anything: advice from our guy guru, Jonathan Small.(LOVE AND LUST)

Q After a yearlong relationship, my boyfriend dumped me. Just the week before, he had told me he loved me, and then bam, he, dropped the bomb. When I asked why, he said it didn't feel right. Why would he change his tune so fast?

A Yeah, it sucks, but it happens. One minute a guy is mapping out your future, and the next minute he's planning his escape. Of course, while there's no reasonable explanation for your man's sudden change of heart, I'm going to take a stab at it.

Worst-case scenario: He has met someone else but doesn't have the balls to tell you. Unless he's the type to fall hard and fast though, I think it's unlikely that a stranger wooed him away from you so quickly.

Another possibility is that he's full of crap. That week when he was going on about how much he loved you? Well, he may have already started to feel like things were over and was afraid that you were on to him. To avoid any "Are we okay?" conversations, he could have told you what he knew you needed to hear. Yes, it's mean and deceptive, but sometimes a guy will say anything to make his life easier.

The most likely option is that he's telling you the truth--yes, he loves you, but the relationship might not have felt right to him. Sure, it might have been going great, but you hit the year mark, and maybe he thought about whether or not he saw you in his future. He may have decided that you're not right for the long-term and rather than wait and see, he just pulled the trigger.

Regardless of the reasons, I think you've dodged a bullet. A man who can change his mind so quickly is not much of a man, and he's certainly not someone you can trust. Should he come crawling back--which, honestly, could happen--do the smart thing and slam the door in his fickle face.

Q Maybe I'm being paranoid, but recently my guy has been trying all these weird new things in bed, like biting my shoulder or pulling one leg up over my heed. I'm wondering where this is coming from. Do you think he's cheating on me and these are tricks he used with some other chick?