Paging the love doctor: answers to your most probing questions about celeb relationships from Beverly Hills psychotherapist Bella Dishell.

Q: Hilary Swank has talked openly about "Chad Lowes past substance abuse. Is it ever okay to air an ex's dirty laundry?

Love Doctor: Confiding in close friends and family members can help you through a difficult breakup period. But making something very public that was once a private issue (in some celebs' cases, telling the general public) isn't a good idea. When two people commit, what they share feels protected, so spilling embarrassing details, even after a breakup, can seem like a betrayal of trust. Publicly tarnishing an ex is not about healing--it's about making yourself look good.

Q. Janet Jackson has said, "I never thought I would ever want [kids], but with Jermaine mind." Should you have children if you love your guy and he wants them?

Love Doctor: Both partners have to decide if they are ready to become parents. Kids are not a gift you give another person; they're a responsibility you take on a couple. If you do it just to please your mate, you may feel resentment toward them--and even the child--later on. But people earl change their opinions ...