5 dating lies not to believe: some women talk themselves into being content with so-so relationships. Learn why that's a very bad idea.(LOVE AND LUST)

* Ever done this: You meet a perfectly cute, great guy whom you know you should be into, but for some reason, you're not quite one hundred percent excited about him. So you tell yourself you're overanalyzing things and keep going out with him, hoping the sparks will eventually ignite. "Rather than be alone, some women talk themselves into feeling chemistry that's not there," says psychotherapist Mira Kirshenbaum, author of the new book Is He Mr. Right? Everything You Need to Know Before You Commit. "But that keeps them in situations that ultimately won't work out." So the next time you start feeding yourself one of these common comments, take note.

"I get nervous around him because I'm just so into him."

Mild nervousness is normal, but nonstop panic isn't and can signal an elevated level of self-consciousness. "If a guy is right for you, you'll mostly feel relaxed around him," says Kirshenbaum. So try to just be yourself. If you still feel uptight after a few dates, it's the mark of a bad match.

"We want different things, but we can learn to compromise."

If you're both truly on hiatus from commitment, carry on, but this line hints at big-time denial. "Dating someone you're not good with is a way of guaranteeing you don't get hurt because you don't have to risk your heart by putting all of your wants out there," says couples therapist Dan Neuharth, PhD, author of Secrets You Keep From Yourself." How to Stop Sabotaging Your Happiness. So quit forcing the notion of compromise if you're longing for more.