What I've learned at Cosmo.(Editorial)

When you have a job like editor-in-chief of Cosmo, you discover that people want to know what you know. I admit, I've learned a ton in the eight years I've been here--about everything from sex to love to office politics. I put my 86 favorite lessons into a new book called How to Set His Thighs on Fire. Here's a sneak peek:

Almost Everything Could Benefit From Some Added Sex Appeal

During the past few years, I've thought a lot about sexiness, and I've come to realize sex appeal matters in far more situations than just guy-girl dynamics. There are lots of instances in which it pays to make something sexier--like your resume or a presentation.

The word sexy today has a broader definition than being sexually suggestive or stimulating. Sexy means exciting, appealing, captivating, and ultimately, tempting.

How do you sexify? One trick is to go big. That's part of what makes Cosmo covers so sexy: big hair, big cleavage, big attitude. Your couch might be more inviting with some big chenille throw pillows. Your resume might be more tempting in a larger font.

I once made cupcakes for my son's school bake sale. I loaded on mounds of chocolate frosting and sprinkles. Later, as I watched the kids devour them, I realized they were very, very sexy cupcakes.

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