Surprising sex-appeal deflators: sometimes you dampen a man's desire ... even realizing it.(his point of view)

* No doubt there are countless things you do that turn your man into a lust-fueled fool (see page 116 for 40 prime examples). But on the flip side, there are also subtle behaviors that abate your allure faster than it takes a pair of Hollywood lovebirds to get engaged. Here are a handful of them:

Public "Evacuation"

You maybe a princess in his eyes; however, seeing you on the "royal throne" can be disconcerting or, at the very least, unpleasant. Take it from Scan*, 34: "I had a girlfriend who thought that being able to go to the bathroom in front of each other was a measure of how close we were,"he says. "I'm sorry, but watching her--or any woman for that matter--saddle up to the ivory pony doesn't make me feel more connected.... It makes me kind of sick." Look, we know you're human. But when nature calls, answer with the door dosed--please7

Catty Chatter

"On the drive home from my friend's housewarming party, the girl I was dating--past tense!--started bad-mouthing the other women she met that night," says Thomas, 30. "She literally had something nasty to say about every female there. By the time she finished her rant, I was like, either all of my friends suck or this chick is an insecure idiot. I decided it was the latter and got rid of her." And there you have ...