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Surprising things that hurt your relationship: some of the habits you think will strengthen your bond can actually undermine it. Find out if you're doing accidental damage and ways to reverse it fast!(LOVE AND LUST)
* No matter how enamored a man is of his woman, there are a few common girlfriend habits that can rub him the wrong way. And the scary thing is, they are the very loving actions you think make your connection stronger.
"Some of the most damaging relationship behaviors are actually those things that you assume are good for your bond," says psychologist Patti Coleman, PhD, author of How to Say It For Couples. "By avoiding them, you can prevent--or reverse--any inadvertent harm you may have caused." Luckily, we've pinpointed the five key faux pas you may be unwittingly making ... and formulated some quick fixes.
Getting In Supergood With His Friends
Click with his crew and you'll rock your guy's world. But get in too tight (as in having them all join your Friendster network or confiding in them about your personal issues) and you could be committing a love rub.
"Men don't develop close ties as often or as easily as women do," explains psychologist and life coach Michelle Callahan, PhD. "They need time alone with the good friends they do have to preserve that sense of having an inner sanctum." When you become emotionally intimate with his go-to people, it compromises his ability to talk openly to them when he needs advice or support--especially if it's about you. If you're with your guy everytime he's with his friends, you're imposing, and sooner or later, he's going to resent you for throwing a wrench into that dynamic.
To make sure your bond with his buddies is distant enough, hang with them in moderation. "If your boyfriend is watching football with his friends, stop by for a beer, but don't stay all afternoon," says psychologist Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, author of Make Up, Don't Break Up. Instead, spend the rest of the day with your friends so you don't miss out on the bonding time you need. You'll naturally become less intimate with his boyz and strike the right buddy balance.
Being Too Low-Maintenance
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