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Too-fast friendships: finding a new partner-in-crime can be superfun, but buddying up at breakneck speed has pitfalls. Cosmo explores the phenomenon.(YOU)(Brief Article)
* In Hollywood, chicks seem to become BFF almost instantly, and their alliances fizzle out just as fast. Plenty of real girls participate in full-throttle friendships too--sometimes with similar results. "Instant best friends give you a sense of belonging," says Florence Isaacs, author of Toxic Friends, True Friends. "Still, quickie relationships are often built on superficial interests--like shopping or partying--so they may not have what it takes to go the distance." Learn about what makes and breaks zero-to-sixty twosomes.
In Constant Touch
What's behind the need to attach immediately? "If you just broke up with someone or you are in a vulnerable situation like a new job, having a friend that you're in 24-7 contact with can make you feel more stable," says Jan Yager, PhD, relationship expert and author of Who's That Sitting at My Desk?
In fact, excessive interaction is a key characteristic of fast friendships: You feel so drawn to the person that you can't get enough of them, like a new boyfriend or even a drug. "You may find yourself spilling intimate secrets, abandoning old friends you no longer have time for, or obsessively calling your new pal before making any and all decisions," says psychologist Sharon Lamb, EdD, author of The Secret Lives of Girls.
Cell phones, BlackBerrys, and the Web facilitate fast friendships by enabling people to stay connected. The irony? "Although you may be 'talking' to each other all the time and feel like you're really bonding, it's not the closeness you get from person-to-person contact," says Yager.
Best Friends for Now
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...allows me to meet other patients like me, some of whom I've known for three years now," she said, speaking about the fast friendships made at the camp. The rapid breathing and wide-eyed expression on Lee Foong Sin's face betrayed the short jog she...
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...people to read. The stories in this forty-one page anthology are "The Adventures of Hopper", "A Gusty Tale", and "The Littlest Puppy"; all three feature whimsical animal characters and fast friendships. Highly recommended.
- Education then and now.
- Newspaper article from: Philippine Daily Inquirer June 2, 2002 700+ words
...enjoyed my high schooling most because most of us remained in the same section through all the four years and developed fast friendships. Re-classification was based on performance, to be indicated in the report cards that were mailed to us during the...
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- News wire article from: Buffalo News (Buffalo, NY) October 27, 2007 700+ words
...Buffalo residents lamenting its creation after they moved away. "Off-leash areas cross socioeconomic barriers. You make fast friendships," said Stevens, who goes there often with his dog, Poppy, a yellow Labrador. "You also have people taking pride...
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- Newspaper article from: Columbus Dispatch (Columbus, OH) September 13, 2007 700+ words
...down every fly ball in his considerable range and, most important, hit. Those things he did. Along the way, he forged fast friendships with his roommates, the Argentine outfielder and the Cuban manager. They wiled away their off days sitting in a piazza...
- "Nell Blaine, artist in the world: works from the 1950s" at Tibor de Nagy...
- Magazine article from: New Criterion Panero, James May 1, 2003 700+ words
...Group; her Mondrian-inspired, purely abstract paintings from the period remain well known and collected. She formed fast friendships with many artists on the scene, in particular those who were associated with the figurative, second generation of the...
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- Newspaper article from: Baltimore Sun (Baltimore, MD) February 4, 2007 700+ words
...boisterous," Purdy said. "It can be intimidating for a 14-year-old who knows nobody." The students often form fast friendships because of the time they spend together, but that can also present obstacles. Carvin said she found it difficult to direct...
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- Newspaper article from: Chicago Tribune (Chicago, IL) January 14, 2007 700+ words
...days of the three-martini lunch have gone the way of the smoking car, but the clubby coziness of the bar car remains. Fast friendships have been forged as many of the same people gather in the same bar cars every night. Some have been doing it for decades...
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