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How to handle his flare-ups; these days, guys seem to blow a gasket over the tiniest things, which can leave you scared, confused, and ticked off.(LOVE AND LUST)
* Russell Crowe's phone-hurling temper tantrum last summer caused a major frenzy in the tabloids, but his antics might not have seemed quite as outrageous to you. Because, as anyone who's ever had a boyfriend knows, guys can be drama kings.
"Men are conditioned to express anger," explains psychologist Steven Stosny, PhD, author of the upcoming You Don't Have to Take It Anymore. Hence your guy's proclivity to punch the computer when it crashes (rather than reboot) or fling the clicker when it won't work (before checking the batteries). Don't worry--we're going to help you deal with his Hulk-like habits.
Wait for the Storm to Pass
Fight the temptation to try to make your guy chill when he's in the midst of a flare-up. "Yelling at, or even chastising, him in the moment will only make him turn on you instead of the frustration source," says Stosny. And don't bother trying to reason with him either. "When your boyfriend is in a state of rage, he loses perspective and the ability to listen to logic." Your best bet: Leave the room and let him rage. "These attacks usually last less than half an hour. And having your say about his temper will be most effective if you wait until his anger subsides," says Stosny.
Be Clear With Your Complaint
Two things you need to know about the male species: One, they get mad and then they're over it; and two, they don't personalize anger that's not directed at them and don't understand why you would. That's why you need to make sure that he understands how his eruptions are ...
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