Ask him anything: advice from our guy guru, Jonathan Small.

Q I've been hooking up with this guy for months, but he said he does. It have time for a relationship. Then he saw me flirting with another guy and tom me that he doesn't want me hooking up With other people. Does he have feelings for me?

A I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but this dude is t-r-o-u-b-le. He's selfish and possessive--a heartbreaking combo. Not only that, but he doesn't want to be your boyfriend. It couldn't be any clearer if he said it right to your face. Oh wait, he did say it to your face.

Clearly, this guy wants all the perks of hooking up with you, minus the responsibility. God forbid you should get it on with someone else when he's in the mood for lovin'. That's one helluva double standard: You should be monogamous, while he keeps his options open.

Whatever you do, don't mistake his jealousy for affection. It has very little to do with his feelings for you and everything to do with his supersize ego. I wouldn't take it personally though--jerks like this are often incapable of having a real relationship, regardless of who the girl is. If you can handle that reality, booty-call away. But if there's even the smallest chance that you're developing feelings for him, I suggest you get the hell out now.

Q A few weeks ago, I was having family problems, and it made me superemotional. During this time, my boyfriend and I had sex, and right before my orgasm, I burst into tears. He was really sweet, but ever since then, we haven't had sex. When I try to get him into bed, he tells me he's not in the mood. How can I get him to sleep with me again?

A Crying his name out in bed is sexy, but simply crying your eyes out can be scary for some guys. Look, most men are cool about consoling you when you've had a bad day at work or your cat dies. However, when you cry like a baby during sex, we're not sure what to do. In a perfect world, all men would know exactly how to deal when something's bothering you. But in reality, most of us aren't so good at handling the touchy-feely stuff. My guess is that since your outburst, your boyfriend is afraid that if you two get intimate, he's going to have to break out the Xanax and play Dr. Phil. No wonder he's avoiding booty!

Since sex is already a very emotional experience, it's understandable why your hypersensitivity led to a mattress meltdown. I'm assuming that your guy was well aware of what you were dealing with in your day-to-day life, but explain it to him again anyway, just so he knows it had little to do with him.