Beyond-disturbing download. (Ask Cosmo Anything).(reader finds child pornography on boyfriend's computer)

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and have talked about getting married. But the other day, I was searching through the songs on his computer and found tons of porn. This wouldn't strike me as strange, except that he had about seven pictures of little girls between the ages of 10 and 14. I immediately confronted him about it, and he swore that he hadn't meant to download them. I want to believe him, but he couldn't even look me in the eye. Is it possible that the man I'm in love with is turned on by children?

This is a difficult situation you've found yourself in. Like you, I want to give him the benefit of the doubt. However, doubt is the operative word, I'm afraid. Because pedophilia is an abhorrent sexual perversion, there must be no question in your mind as to whether your man is involved in something so insidious. You have to talk to him again, not aggressively, but calmly, quietly, and with genuine concern. If his words or behavior give you even the slightest signal that he has an inclination toward sex with ...