O, The Oprah Magazine articles from October 2002

O, The Oprah Magazine archives from October 2002

O letters.(Letter to the Editor)
October 1, 2002... We Hear You! Readers weigh in on perimenopause (knowledge is power) and are bowled over by the wonders of tripe (it's not that bad) and what the fat lady knows. You did it once again! Your article "Be Aware, Be Very Aware...Oprah Meets the...

Taking a breather. (Here We Go).(Brief Article)
October 1, 2002... A Around this time last year, I made an agreement with my self. I would devote my time, energy, and attention only to that which has real meaning for me. Just before coming to this decision, I'd spent an entire afternoon sifting through a bar...

Ahhhhhhh.(Brief Article)
October 1, 2002... Let out a sigh. Doesn't that feel terrific? Even if your preferred living speed is fast, of faster. It's good to wind down now and then. Too much stress can wear out your whole system. You owe it to everyone you love (including...

Nothing doing. (Live Your Best Life).(Brief Article)
October 1, 2002... Some of us need to discover that we will not begin to live more fully until we have the courage to do and see and taste and experience much less than usual.... There are times, then, when in order to keep ourselves in existence at all we simply...

Dr. Phil: "it sounds as though your boyfriend needs a lesson in reality". (Tell It Like It Is).(Column)
October 1, 2002... PHILLIP C. McGRAW, PHD, on dealing with a lazy live-in boyfriend, what to do when family members offer unsolicited advice, and bringing back that lovin' feeling when kids are underfoot. Q Is it too arrogant, self-satisfied, or unhealthy to...

Suze Orman: "don't burn your bridges, especially in this economy": before you walk out on a job or get into a risky financial relationship, consider the long-term consequences. (Financial Freedom).
October 1, 2002... Q My friends and I talk about how much we'd love to leave our unfulfilling jobs. It would be great to tell our bosses, "Get lost!" and walk out. Right now not one of us has the money to make that a possibility, but I've decided to start saving...

Am I really--gasp!--A stress Junkie? Some people get high on life. Others get high on strife (you know who you are). Is there a cure? (Martha Beck).
October 1, 2002... LIKE MOST RECOVERING ADDICTS, I clearly remember the moment I finally hit bottom. I'd been strung out for months: sleepless, poorly nourished, and hollow-eyed, but still manically active. No matter how dilapidated my body became, my favorite...

Woodbridge Winery: brings you a special evening. (What's Going On: Advertisement).
October 1, 2002... How do you toast life with Woodbridge Wines? The first 1,000 readers to submit their thoughts at www.woodbridgewines.com will receive a free set of wine charms from Woodbridge and 0. All will be entered to win the grand prize--an elegant dinner...

Norton McNaughton: invites you to New York. (What's Going On: Advertisement).
October 1, 2002... Norton McNaughton brings comfortable, flattering, easy to care for styles to the modern woman. And what modern woman doesn't need a little pampering? Norton McNaughton invites you to enter to win a trip to New York for you and a guest. One...

Lincoln's: new cultural icons: three celebrations. (What's Going On: Advertisement).
October 1, 2002... In three cities this fall, Lincoln will bring its ongoing celebration of New Cultural Icons to life. With The assistance of cultural event producer Gen Art, Lincoln will present gala evenings celebrating the best in local music, film, art,...

Iman's Aha! moment: as she lay in hospital bed, the supermodel was hit with the truth about beauty. (Aha! Moment).(Brief Article)
October 1, 2002... ON A FRIDAY NIGHT IN 1983, I was in a taxi in New York riding home from dinner with friends. A drunk driver ran a red light and hit the cab, and I was thrown toward the glass partition. I tried to duck, but my face hit the glass, and the impact...

Bouncing back: their businesses (and business plans) were hit hard. Who could have predicted that these four gutsy, clever women would pick themselves up, dust themselves off, and start all over again? (Working Spirit).
October 1, 2002... THE LONGER I DO CONSULTING WORK with people and organizations in transition, the clearer it is that resilience--the ability to bounce back--is critical to success. Women who believe they're resilient are more likely to take on challenges in the...

Set an example: we salute these companies for their contributions to the community. (Advertisement).(Brief Article)
October 1, 2002... WACOAL IS FIT FORTHE CURE [R] THIS FALL BE THE 50,000TH WOMAN TO RECEIVE A COMPLIMENTARY FITTING at a Fit for the Cure [R] event. In celebration, Wacoal will donate $5,000 in your name to the Susan G. Komen Breast Cancer Foundation! Wacoal...

That fabulous face. (Reading Room).
October 1, 2002... The woman is just plain beautiful--and we're not simply talking about looks. Actress Isabella Rossellini (daughter of Ingrid Bergman and director Roberto Rossellini) is so comfortable in her skin, and in front of a camera, that sharing her...

Ties that blind: Rohinton Mistry's luminous Indian novel explores the delicate delusions of home. (Reading Room).
October 1, 2002... One of the central ironies of families is that the fiercest deceptions are the ones that most often hold sway. So it is that bitter, controlling Coomy can force her ailing stepfather out of their large Bombay home and into her half sister's...

The way we are: novelist Tim O'Brien retraces the lives of a late-sixties senior class in his wonderful July, July. (Reading Room).
October 1, 2002... IN HIS QUIET WAY, TIM O'BRIEN HAS SHOWN HIMSELF to be not only one of the strongest writers of his generation but also one of the most formally innovative. The Things They Carried, the best work of fiction produced out of the American...

A Reading Room of our own. (Reading Room).(Carrying the Body; The Lives of the Muses)
October 1, 2002... O executive articles editor Dawn Raffel's first novel, Carrying the Body (Scribner), tells of a prodigal daughter's return, with her ailing young son, to the childhood home where, since their mother's death, her sister cares for their declining...

Present imperfect: Anne Lamott takes on the hip-hugging chaos of kids, exes, aging parents, and complex memories in her dead-on, charming new book. (Reading Room).
October 1, 2002... IN A PERFECT WORLD, THERE WOULD BE no failed marriages, fearful children, critical parents, futile romantic entanglements--and so no need for books by Anne Lamott to offer humor and hope. The author of Bird by Bird, Traveling Mercies, and other...

Inner peace for pachyderms. (Reading Room).
October 1, 2002... Ever see an elephant do the "cobra"? In Babar's Yoga for Elephants (Abrams), by Laurent de Brunhoff, the peaceful pachyderm explains how yoga was first invented and is practiced today in busy Celesteville, where it "helps us all to relax and...

Secrets of a marriage: one couple's funny, searingly honest account. (Reading Room).
October 1, 2002... How many times have you thought to yourself, I don't want to "work" at my relationship, I want it to be the fun part of my life, the work antidote, in fact? And how many times has a nagging voice in your head chimed in, Well, just live alone...

Yours indeed, Zora: Zora Neale Hurston's sparkling correspondence offers a revealing look at a vivid and difficult writing life. (Reading Room).
October 1, 2002... READING ZORA NEALE HURSTON: A Life in Letters (Doubleday) feels a little like standing on a railroad embankment in a sleepy southern town and watching the express train come roaring down the track. The most well-known African-American woman...

Biblio: from our self to yours. (Reading Room).
October 1, 2002... * The guided missives in Hell Hath No Fury: women's Letters from the End of the Affair (Carroll & Graf), edited by Anna Holmes, are wickedly entertaining. Pity Sarah Bernhardt's paramour ("It is you fault that you have not known how to hold on...

Judging Amy Brenneman's bookshelf: love, family, and an itsy-bitsy (but smart) spider make up the cornerstones of the actress's library. (Books That Made A Difference).(Brief Article)
October 1, 2002... I MOVED AROUND A LOT IN MY twenties, but four years ago my husband and I settled into the house we're in now. We suddenly had all kinds of space -- even a room for a study, where I had bookshelves built and could finally go through the boxes of...

Why can't a woman be more like a man? And vice versa. (Uncommon Sense).
October 1, 2002... Men are strong, silent, sports obsessed, and turn over onto their sides at the worst possible times. Women are thoughtftil, good with thank-you notes, and want to talk, right? Wrong. Get over it WE ALL KNOW AT LEAST ONE BIG, STRAIGHT guy...

How to use anger: you think anger's dangerous. That you have to keep a lid on it. But psychiatrist Mark Epstein, MD, says it's actually a valuable news flash from your gut. (Healing).
October 1, 2002... LAURA WAS ANGRY AT HER BOYFRIEND, SHE told me in our first therapy session. While he claimed to love her, he was still living with someone else. He assured her that he no longer had romantic feelings for this other woman, only that their lives...

Dinner with the exes. (Couples).
October 1, 2002... Before she met her fiance, Paul, there was Mike the musician. And that skinny premed guy. And Thomas, who occasionally wore skirts. STEPHANIE DOLGOFF, a soon-to-be-married journalist, revisits four boyfriends who helped her become who she is...

Timeless values. (Special Advertising Section).
October 1, 2002... What is most essential remains meaningful, valuable, and precious to us forever, Abiding values are those truly tested by time, passed from one generation to the next, adapted to suit shifts in fashion and lifestyles, but fundamentally...

Now serving: Andrea Jaeger; what do you do after winning tennis championships at age 14? You start a Colorado camp for kids with a life-threatening disease. Pam Houston pays court to a former star who has finally found her love match. (Use Your Life).
October 1, 2002... I ARRIVE AT ASPEN'S CARIBOU CLUB with minutes to spare before the talent show begins. The DJ is ready, the dance floor a patchwork of multicolored lights, and at a corner table, huddled with two oncology nurses, is onetime tennis great Andrea...

Everything I need to know I learned from a horse. (Tales of Adventure).
October 1, 2002... He's taught her patience, daring, attentiveness, wisdom--and given her killer biceps. Sound good? JANE SMILEY offers readers with rider's block an education in the fellowship of the ring. A FEW DAYS AGO, I FOUND a photo that was taken ten...

The O list.
October 1, 2002... "A few things that help me relax." OPRAH Blowing in the Wind "If Austin Powers has a yard, I'm sure these are hanging in it. They become hypnotically calming blurs of color on a breezy day." (Tranceglow mobiles, $4 to $20...

Who gloves you, baby? Why fight the cold with your bare hands? It's a snazzy season for gloves, in everything from brown-and black patchwork to caramel cashmere. (Fashion).(Brief Article)
October 1, 2002... You've already got a nice coat. You don't need (can't afford!) another. But you can give your classic camel or black a little charisma with a show of hands--or rather of gloves. They'll also lend freshness (and a sort of lady like finish) to...

The shoe must go on; if you're a shoe nut, this year's fresh reds and unbasic blacks will inspire insist give in: you'll wear all fall and winter, and into the spring.(Brief Article)
October 1, 2002... These ruby slippers may not take you to Oz and back but they re good to go anywhere else-work, dinner, Paris Milan Plus there's big buzz about red this season. Ballet flats Slim bags Heels with a hint of vintage glamour, in the form of rounder...

The fruits of your beauty. (Beauty Girls Toys).(Brief Article)
October 1, 2002... Cranberry. Pumpkin. Apple cider. Welcome in autumn's new glory--a harvest of nourishing products for your face and body. THE FROST IS ON THE PUMPKIN, AND THE PUMPKIN'S ON...WELL in our case, it's on our face, because we were lucky enough to...

Puttin' on the spritz: the right scent can bring you joy, make you kick up your heels, even calm your jumpy nerves Lessa Chalk Suzman shows you the how, what, where, and why of buying a fragrance. (Beauty shopper).
October 1, 2002... IT'S A CURSE: I'VE NEVER TRIED A FRAGRANCE I didn't like--on someone else. My best friend, for example, smells good in everything. Each time I get a whiff of her latest scent, I'm captivated enough to run out and buy it--but it's always a...

Grilled cheese night at Campanile. (Great Food).(Brief Article)(Recipe)
October 1, 2002... Take one run-of-the-mill kids classic. Send it off to Italy for finishing school, then bring it home to Campanile, Los Angeles's foodie heaven. The result? A lusciously grown-up sandwich, one part aged Gruyere, two parts sourdough, all parts...

Taste life's simple moments. (Advertisement).
October 1, 2002... Does the sweet smell of something delicious baking in the kitchen bring you back to a warm childhood memory? This past June, Land O'Lakes invited you to share the recipe that inspired your favorite food moments. The grand prize winner,...

Shhhhh...wouldn't it be lovely to have a place with no phone, no pressure, no people. No problem. Simply stake out a corner of your home or garden and make it a zone of-your own.(Brief Article)
October 1, 2002... THE UNEXAMINED LIFE MAY NOT BE worth living, but who, outside of an ashram or a cloister, has the time--and space--for contemplation? You do, despite daily e-mail invasions and phone-message pileups, despite kids under 2 or loquacious friends...

Let it flow: it's the trick of everyone from Salmon slicers to principal ballerinas. It's calm energy, and it gets astonishing results. Alison Rose Levy reports on people who are Type C: cool. Centered. Collected. (Energy).(Brief Article)
October 1, 2002... WHEN IT COMES TO PHYSICAL ACTIVITY, more--more speed, more thrust, more strength, more oomph!!--isn't necessarily more. Although Type-A behavior supposedly leads to achievement, some of the fittest people in the universe advocate a relaxed...

The 90-day challenge: he transformed Diane Sawyer's abs, pecs, and mind. Next, superstar fitness trainer Jim Karas set out to reform the eating and exercise patterns of our women. Time limit? Ninety days. (Minding Your Body).
October 1, 2002... THE IDEA IS SIMPLE FOUR WOMEN sign on for three months of fitness reeducation camp. None have serious weight problems, but all strive to slim down and tighten up. They share checkered dieting pasts -- from Weight Watchers to Cabbage Soup to...

Breast cancer: the latest word. (Health News).
October 1, 2002... What's the current thinking on hormone replacement therapy alcohol, birth control pills? Two of the top specialists in the field--LARRY NORTON, MD, and SUSAN LOVE, MD--tell you what they know now and hope for later. CAN HORMONE REPLACEMENT...

Fat: the diets that work, the diets that don't. (Fitness).(Brief Article)
October 1, 2002... It's the buzz that the Atkins Diet is the best way to lose weight. Is that true? "No!" says David L. Katz, MD, associate clinical professor at Yale University School of Medicine and director of the Yale Prevention Research Center. "His diet not...

In a single stroke. (Healing).
October 1, 2002... She was a scientist, a workaholic, and an expert in the human mind. Then one morning her own brain turned against her. KATHERINE RUSSELL RICH reports on the extraordinary spiritual and medical metamorphosis of Jill Bolte Taylor. SEVERAL...

Questions * answers. (Special Advertising Section: Real Women).
October 1, 2002... Q: Ever wondered how stress affects your sex life? Or how men and women differ in their urge to stray? Or why you can't get pregnant? a: To find out the answers to these questions and more watch Drs. Jennifer and Laura Berman, two...

Outreach. (Advertisement).
October 1, 2002... Our advertisers invite you to take advantage of these special offers and opportunities To send for information about products and services featured on OutReach, check the box corresponding to the companies listed below 1 Citi Cards...

Oprah talks to Ralph Lauren. (The O Interview).(Interview)
October 1, 2002... A visionary American dreammaker who's turned a look (and a necktie) into a $10 billion empire talks about the fabric of his amazing life, his health crisis -- and his extraordinary new center for cancer care and prevention. IT'S A...

The laziest meal in town.(slow eating)
October 1, 2002... Do you rush through dinner, snack on processed foods, grab bites on the run? Meet Slow Food, the culinary movement that's (slowly) sweeping the world--aimed at ease, enjoyment, and savoring the deliciousness of the present moment. Corby Kummer...

You're getting warmer: how to wear the chunky new knits; Try a sweater for work instead of a blazer--softer, cuddlier, just as chic. Toss on a sinuous scarf. Let a long cardigan stand for a coat. Four women cozy up cozy up.(Brief Article)
October 1, 2002... JANICE DICKINSON Former model, photographer, and author (of a just-published memoir, No Lifeguard an Duty: The Accidental Life of the World's First Supermodel); 40s "I'm a combination of rock-and-roll fashion and PTA mom." Basics:...

Racy laces: no more footloose or fancy free. The sexiest new boots are all tied up with old-fashioned lacing. A great way to get playful with classic fabrics.(Brief Article)
October 1, 2002... Ribbons. Peasant bodices. Corsets. Curves. These are the intensely feminine associations summoned up by these boots. You can have this look in all heights, low to high, and in materials like leather, suede, and corduroy. Wear them with skirts...

Take a breath and...calm down, chill out, de-stress, unwind, slow down.(Brief Article)
October 1, 2002... Did you know there's no word for stress on Fiji? That jumpy nerves can make you fat? And have you ever thought about taking an antianxiety drug? From old wives' tales to Harvard research, here's everything you need to know to launch the rest...

Just relax now... damn it!
October 1, 2002... Q: What causes more anxiety than a slasher movie, a deserted parking lot, or a millipede in your shower? A: Trying to unwind. Lisa Kogan on why taking it easy is so hard. I FILL MY BATHTUB WITH BUBBLES, JUST LIKE DORIS DAY IN Pillow Talk....

The stress-detector test: are you a woman on the verge? Harvard expert Alice Domar, PhD, has designed a quiz to help you assess your stress level, identify your tension points, and come up with a gentler design for living.
October 1, 2002... YOU'RE TOO ANXIOUS TO SLEEP. YOUR STOMach's knotted like macrame. Your nerves are super-sizing. Nails--what nails? Are you suffering from ordinary stress? Harvard Medical School assistant professor Alice Domar, PhD, who was recently appointed...

Stress-overs; take three women under incredible pressure--just like you--and three stress-reduction experts. Mix. Stir up memories. Question: is relief in sight?
October 1, 2002... IT'S NOT THAT OUR FRIENDS DON'T know the truth about stress--they simply lie because they love us. "Oh, honey," your girlfriend coos when you tell her your world heading toward an 8.5 on the Richter, 'it's not that bad." It is. Next comes...

Things that make you go "Ahhh".
October 1, 2002... Have you been burning the candle at both ends? Then try this: Soak in a Jacuzzi. Do the Midnight Yell. Walk the dog. Watch your hibiscus grow. And never, ever forget Ella Fitzgerald. Judith Newman shows you how to give peace a chance. ...

Unwinderies: a guide to stress-free zones.
October 1, 2002... AN IDYLLIC ENGLISH COUNTRY HOUSE. A RESTORATIVE WEEK IN Provence. A camel trek through the Sahara. From the aqua blue of the Indian Ocean to a monastery in the California mountains, here are II places to let your guard down, put your feet up,...

Why we love lipstick: christine fellingham reports on every woman's favorite magic wand.
October 1, 2002... HOW MANY LIPSTICKS DO YOU OWN? Maybe you're having a hard time coming up with a number. Okay, let's break it down: How many are in your purse? Makeup bag? Bathroom? Coat pockets? What about in your office drawer, evening bags, glove...

Breathing space: slide your feet through the sand on this beach on Anguilla's West East, and watch as an evening lull in the trade winds smoothes the Caribbean.
October 1, 2002... They're footballers. Fraternity men. Big, burly guys like ex-quarterback Don McPherson, who's hoping to lead a new generation of men into a violence-free end zone. SEVERAL NEW YORK DRAGONS FOOT-ball players limp into the room with what Don...

Another reason we love lipstick: October's the month to put your money where your mouth is -- and cosmetics companies will donate the proceeds to breast cancer charities. (Practical Matters).(Brief Article)
October 1, 2002... IF YOU'RE CASTING ABOUT for an excuse to splurge on a new lip color, we've got one for you: This month many costmetics companies donate the proceeds from limited edition lipsticks to breast cancer charities. These "pink-ribbon programs" are an...

Button up: the difference between a dull coat and a dazzler is what you wear with it. Here, six low-priced classics, plus a coterie of important new accessories.(Brief Article)
October 1, 2002... Free Jacket! Winter looks brighter when you've got the extra zest of this hooded zip-up from JC Penney. Rejoice--we're giving away 40 of them. For details and guidelines see Shop Guide. Sveltly Belted * ... and copiously buttoned,...

"I've learned not to worry about what might come next". (What I Know For Sure).(Brief Article)
October 1, 2002... I'M NOT NEARLY AS STRESSED AS people might imagine. Over the years, I've learned to focus my energy on the present, to be fully aware of what's happening in every moment and not to worry about what should have happened, what's going wrong, or...