O, The Oprah Magazine articles from November 2002

O, The Oprah Magazine archives from November 2002

Letters.(Letter to the Editor)
November 1, 2002... We Hear You! Readers say a prayer for a trailblazing doctor, feel grateful for a New York minute, and are relieved that empty nests can be filled.... I just read the article "The Day That Shook Our World" [September]. The words of Rita...

Set an example: we salute these companies for their contributions to the community. (Advertisement).(Brief Article)
November 1, 2002... WENDY'S BRINGS KIDS HOME DAVE THOMAS, FOUNDER OF WENDY'S, believed that every child deserves a permanent home and a loving family. The Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption carries on Dave's legacy through its dedication to helping the...

What's true for you? (Here We Go).(Brief Article)(Editorial)
November 1, 2002... THIS ISSUE GREW OUT OF ONE OF MY favorite questions: What do you know for sure? When the late movie critic Gene Siskel asked me that several years back, it threw me at first. Since then the question has become my way of taking stock of my life....

Calendar.(Calendar)
November 1, 2002... November 1 FRIDAY "Let us go forth with fear and courage and rage to save the world." Grace Paley, writer 2 SATURDAY Don't back down just to keep the peace. Standing up for your beliefs builds self-confidence and...

Live your best life.(possible side effects of using contraceptive patch)(Brief Article)
November 1, 2002... I have walked through many lives, some of them my own, and I am not who I was, though some principle of being abides, from which I struggle not to stray. PLEASE READ IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION: The contraceptive patch contains hormones...

Dr. Phil: "what you want is a man who wants you as much as you want him". (Tell It Like It Is).(Column)
November 1, 2002... PHILIP C. McGRAW, PHD, on a stalled May--December romance that may not work out...how to renegotiate household labor laws...and a few words on baby desperation. Q I've been dating the same man for almost three years. He's eight years...

Suze Orman: "with a little attention, we can get you back on track". (Financial Freedom).(Column)
November 1, 2002... Terrified of your 401(k) statements? Unhappy with a financial advisor? Don't let fear keep you from protecting your money. Q I'm in a terrible state about my mutual funds. Over the past two years, my account has been hemorrhaging. I'm so...

Introducing Covington[TM]...new classics for the whole family.(fashion clothing)(Brief Article)
November 1, 2002... Make this fall special with activities that rekindle your spirit and simplify your life. It's easy. Just start with a list of your favorite things to do, or consider these ideas from Covington: * Curl up in a cozy cocoa brown Sweater coat...

The gift horse. (Healing).(Equine Experience, Arizona)(Column)
November 1, 2002... Do you know what you need and how to ask for it? ULA KEARY goes hand to hoof with an Arabian named Beau and gets a chance to heal her past along the way. All thanks to a brilliant cowboy therapist and his unorthodox approach. THE FIRST...

Surprise party. (Entertaining).(gifts of favorite books)
November 1, 2002... Your husband's coming up on a big-deal birthday. You know he's a great reader. So what do you do? You borrow a page from one clever hostess, and toss a party no one can put down. ANN BANKS reveals how she did it. WHAT ARE MY HUSBAND'S...

Party behavior: the rules. (Entertaining).(Column)
November 1, 2002... Should women stand to shake hands with other women? What if someone forgets to RSVP--do you call and nag? And what about guests who double-dip their chips? O readers' questions answered by etiquette expert PEGGY POST of the Emily Post...

Martha Beck's party line: she still doesn't like parties, but over the years O's life coach has come up with some strategies to help keep her out of the coatroom.(holiday guest tips; includes related article "Party On for Enjoying the Festivities")
November 1, 2002... IF YOU ARE READING THIS ISSUE WITH MOUNTING excitement, thinking about the wonderful parties you're going to throw or attend this holiday season, allow me to congratulate you. I'm one of the millions of party-impaired individuals who stand in...

Can this marriage be organized? (Taming the Chaos).(organizing posessions; includes related article on "6 Ways Couples Can De-Clutter")(Column)
November 1, 2002... Wanted: Order in small, overcrowded apartment. Husband and wife each have their own systems. Mission impossible? "I'VE GOT TO PUT UP SOME MORE shelves," said George--his usual response to every conversation with his wife about getting rid...

The Story Lady. (Use Your Life).(People and Stories at Interim House, Philadelphia)(Column)
November 1, 2002... Every week a group of Philadelphia women meet to read and talk about what they've read. But their teacher, Anndee Hochman, has a much more urgent goal: to save their lives. IT'S STORY TIME AT INTERIM HOUSE, and tonight the subject is...

Dorothy Alison's aha! Moment. (Turning Point).(humor and mothers)(Column)
November 1, 2002... How does a sense of humor ignite? For one novelist, it took a cold day an old house, and a mother's fiery imagination. IT IS MY SENSE OF HUMOR THAT SUSTAINS ME. IT IS, other than good teeth, the thing my mother gave me that I appreciate...

Two questions that could change your life. (Free Therapy).(feelings and healing; www.livingthequestions.org)(Column)
November 1, 2002... Bulletin: A revolutionary technique might very well alter the way you handle difficulties. RAPHAEL CUSHNIR reports on the most unexpected path to joy, release, and freedom. MY WIFE'S VOICE ON THE phone was panicked. "What's wrong?" I...

The O list.(home goods)(Buyers Guide)
November 1, 2002... "A few things I think would make great hostess gifts." --OPRAH The Well-Dressed Dressing "The O on these terrific oils and vinegars doesn't stand for Oprah, so I can't take credit for them, but I can say they're a delicious gift for...

Good timing: clean faces, gold and silver cases, double-wrapped straps--these handsome new watches have the sort of looks that last. (Fashion).(fashion accessories)(Brief Article)(Buyers Guide)
November 1, 2002... Wraparounds are cool: first sunglasses and skirts, now watches. These have an offhand chic--as if the band were a little too big, so it has to go around your wrist more than once. A bit more casual than a bracelet watchband, the wraparound is...

The wrap of luxury. .(fashion scarves)(Buyers Guide)
November 1, 2002... Paisley and plaid, fringed and crinkled and embroidered, these sumptuous scarves are going to make life very, very interesting for your workday basics. SILK with an intriguing pleated texture provides face-framing glamour Han Feng, $110....

A moveable face: this holiday season, put a party in your purse with these richly colored, multipurpose palettes. (Beauty Girls Toys).
November 1, 2002... IF IT'S OPTIONS you want, you'll find them in this slim compact that hides three lip glosses, two powder blushes, and six silky eye shadows. We started out with a neutral look that seemed just right for the office, and then played around till...

Going flawless: psst! O's beauty director has figured out how to disguise her shadowy past--and with the right concealer, so can you. Valerie Monroe tells you how to put your freshest face forward. (Beauty Shopper).(includes cosmetics listing)(Product/Service Evaluation)
November 1, 2002... UNTIL RECENLTY, I'VE LIVED THE kind of life -- like you, I assume -- in which I've had nothing to hide. (Oh, all right nothing much.) Then I became a beauty editor. Now I've discovered that, despite my careful, uncheckered past, I might in fact...

A radical solution to skin care. (Beauty Report).(free radicals and a theory of aging; includes related article "Free Radical Damage Control")
November 1, 2002... Here comes the sun--and pollution and cigarette smoke and UVA rays. CHRISTINE FELLINGHAM finds the best defense. IF YOU'RE INTENT ON PREVENTING any and all damage to your skin, look no further than the nearest cave. That's apparently where...

Not your granny's quilts: no antiques in the attic? You can still warm to the down-home charm of quilts. These modern versions are built on tradition, yet have their own inspired sense of humor, color, and from. (Comfort Zone).
November 1, 2002... FOR HANGING UP, stacking up, or bedding down, these quilts reinterpret old-time designs like the Double Wedding Ring pattern (new name: Single Girl) and needle arts like patchwork (done here in silk rectangles that reverse to black velvet). On...

The love your bake: add apples cinnamon, dough, and good friends. Dish all night. Joyce Maynard on the incredible, edible pie party. (Great Food).(includes apple pie recipe)(Column)
November 1, 2002... LIKE SO MANY WOMEN I KNOW, I HAD A COMPLICATED relationship with my mother. I adored her and there was never any question in my mind how much she loved me back, but we argued about many things and kept uneasy silences about others. In the...

Do you want to dance? What brought her to flamenco? A gut desire to bust loose, stomp, sway and strut. Sarah Bird goes on a 12-day vacation from her life. (Tales of Adventure).(International Flamenco Festival narrative)(Column)
November 1, 2002... AS A WOMAN, YOU AL-most always want to dance more than the men around you do. At a certain age, those few men who might have danced with you have all achieved the only dance objective they ever had--acquisition of a steady sex partner. You...

GNC invites you in. (What's Going In).(General Nutrition Centers Grand Re-Opening Celebration)(Brief Article)
November 1, 2002... New look. New attitude. New GNC. stop into your local General Nutrition Centers between Oct. 11th - Nov. 8th for the GNC Grand Re-Opening Celebration. Furthering GNC's commitment to help you live healthily, shopping GNC has never been easier,...

Ralph Lauren celebrates style. (What's Going On: Advertisement).
November 1, 2002... Join Lauren by Ralph Lauren and Foley's for an exclusive presentation of the Resort 2003 collection. The show will preview the seasons top trends and provide great ideas for building your Resort wardrobe. You could receive a special Ralph...

Revlon new colorstay overtime lash tint. (What's Going On: Advertisement).(Brief Article)
November 1, 2002... A beautiful lash breakthrough only from Revlon. One light coat gently tints and defines lashes for up to 3 days. With natural botanicals, the ophthalmologist tested gel formula won't irritate, smudge or smear. Visit www.revion.com for more...

Lincoln's explore the New Cultural Icons. (What's Going On: Advertisement).(A & E Biography and www.biography.com/icons)(Brief Article)
November 1, 2002... Next month, the eagerly awaited results of Lincoln's New Cultural Icons poll will be published in the pages of this magazine. And although the voting for the hottest up-and-corners has closed, there's still much to see and download on the New...

Click picks. (Advertisement).(cosmetics and good stuff online)(Brief Article)
November 1, 2002... O'S GUIDE TO THE BEST OF THE WEB WWW.CLINIQUE.COM Now you can buy anything Clinique at clinique.com. Smart start? Online Skin Typing helps you find perfect match-ups and precision-fit skin care. Great Skin. Great Looks, and a friendly...

Food hangover help. (The Fitness Page).(avoid putting on weight; includes related article "invisible exercise of the month")(Brief Article)
November 1, 2002... So you couldn't resist the dessert tray at Aunt Edna's Thanksgiving dinner and now you're as bloated as a cream puff? And you've got another party tomorrow! Whatever you do, don't compensate for those extra calories by starving yourself the day...

Strong at heart.(good health guidelines)
November 1, 2002... Did you know that walking just a half hour daily can save your life? Or that cutting out white rice can make your heart breathe easier? From the right foods to the best exercise to the magic science of gratitude, DEAN ORNISH and MEHMET OZ, two...

All I want for Christmas is my sanity. (Minding Your Body).(stress quizz; includes related article on solutions)
November 1, 2002... Family stuff. Weight gain. What to buy your spoiled little niece.... It's holiday season again! This little quiz by Alice Domar, PHD, will help you figure out what drives you craziest fastest and what you can do to turn this sleigh around. ...

Say cheese. (Reading Room).
November 1, 2002... Seize the moment, and transcend It: That's the subliminal message of Photography PastForward: Aperture at 50 (Aperture), a collection of Images and writings that reflect a half-century of Innovation--and promise--from the quarterly that has...

House of the missing son: a strange, secretive family tragedy lies at the heart of Donna Tartt's elegant new novel, The Little Friend. (Reading Room).(Book Review)
November 1, 2002... GOOD WRITERS SEEK NEW WAYS TO say what they're thinking, and sometimes what feels newest is the gorgeousness of the past. Donna Tartt, whose first novel was The Secret History, returns ten years later with The Little Friend (Knopf), a lush and...

The haunting: Robert Bausch's The Gypsy Man is a mystery, a ghost story, and a revealing portrait of small-town superstitions and intimacies. (Reading Room).(Book Review)
November 1, 2002... The terror begins very quietly. Near a mountain cabin in rural Virginia--this is the 1950s--Penny, a young wife and mother, sees an oddly shaped white stone poking up through the ground, "like the mountain has a broke bone sticking out of it."...

A hero's tales. (Reading Room).(Nelson Mandela's Favorite African Folktales)(Book Review)
November 1, 2002... A fabulous story, handed down through generations, is a treasure and a gift. For Nelson Mandela's Favorite African Folktales (Norton), the great man collected the stories he loves, some with hilarious twists (feminists will hoot at the sassy...

Marcella in search of herself: a headstrong heroine zigzags from Zanzibar to America in Roger King's daring new novel. (Reading Room).(A Girl from Zanzibar)(Book Review)
November 1, 2002... A STEADY BEAT OF DANGER PURSUES the adventurous, money-hungry heroine of Roger King's intriguing new novel, A Girl from Zanzibar (Books & Co./Helen Marx). As she moves from her first, tentatively entrepreneurial steps in her native Zanzibar to...

Bear hugs. (Reading Room).(Teddy's World)(Book Review)
November 1, 2002... The bear market has never been healthier, to judge by Teddy's World (Joost Elffers), a warm and phenomenally fuzzy collection of teddy bear photos by Mirja de Vries, with text (from Teddy's point of view) by Play with Your Food creator Joost...

Running on empty: think it doesn't happen here? Think again. A compassionate truth-teller offers hope to the hungry American next door. (Reading Room).(Book Review)
November 1, 2002... For Loretta Schwartz-Nobel, hunger in America is more than a timely topic. One reason her new book, Growing Up Empty (HarperCollins), is so compelling is that reporting on starvation in our prosperous society has become her mission--her life's...

9 ways of looking at a kitty: in his fascinating new book, Jeffrey Moussaieff Masson explores what makes cats tick, purr, and meow. (Reading Room).(The Nine Emotional Lives of Cats: A Journey into the Feline Heart)(Book Review)
November 1, 2002... ONE DAY AS I SLUMPED ON the sofa, missing a man who had walked out of my life without a word, my cat Pandora came over and, uttering a little chirp, rubbed against my leg. Was she comforting me in my affliction? Nah. I knew that chirp: She was...

Biblio: recommendations from our shelf to yours. (Reading Room).(new reads)(Bibliography)
November 1, 2002... * Some rewards are celestial: This month brings the republication, after nearly a century, of Mark Twain's Extract from Captain Stormfield's Visit to Heaven (Prometheus), a dead-on appraisal of the afterlife by an upwardly mobile merchant...

Shooting star. (Reading Room).(Lee Miller: Portraits from a Life)(Book Review)
November 1, 2002... Steichen photographed her. Man Ray was her teacher. She shot fashion photos for Vogue, became awar correspondent, took portraits of Picasso, Colette, Chaplin, and other 20th-century legends. But the beautiful, talented Lee Miller never became a...

Much ado about reading: actor-director Kenneth Branagh's favorite books are plotted journeys into wild places, old times, tortured souls.(books that made a difference)
November 1, 2002... I REMEMBER THE FIRST BOOK I bought. I was II, and my father was shocked that I should spend money on such a thing. He's an intelligent man but not a book reader. He wondered why I wasn't getting one from the library. It never occurred to him...

What I know for sure.(interview with Mattie Stepanek and beliefs of various celebrities)(Interview)
November 1, 2002... I first met my friend Mattie Stepanek a little over a year ago, when he was calling himself a goner. His battle with a rare form of muscular dystrophy, which had already claimed the lives of his three siblings, was threatening his, yet he was...

Party handbook.(Brief Article)
November 1, 2002... When was the last time you were at a party that you didn't want to end? You can't remember? That's exactly why we're here. This month O cordially invites you to place a lampshade squarely on your head. We salute the party spirit with mood...

Party Throwing Made Easy; Penelope Green asks the experts: how do you guarantee a good time?
November 1, 2002... GREAT PARTIES ARE GIFTS FROM THE heart: They succeed when we give ourselves to one another, host to guest and back again. From a last-minute bash to a sit-down dinner for 12 or a cocktail party for 50, there are a million ways to bring people...

Cocktails anyone? Steamy Passion. Pink Halo. Dark and Stormy. No, we're not talking romance novels, but the glorious technicolor cocktail. In a flute or on the rocks. With a twist or with a shout. Bottoms up, darling.
November 1, 2002... Pear Champagne Theo, New York City * Pour 1/2 ounce Belle de Brillet, or other pear cognac, into a fluted glass and fill a most to the rim with chilled champagne. * Top off with a splash of Grand marnier. * Garnish with a pear...

What a swell party this is.
November 1, 2002... Wine and cheese get-togethers? Been there. Sleepovers? Done that. But how about mix-your-own sundaes and epicurean mashed potatoes, custom-made perfume and euphoria inducing massages? O Staffers took the day off for some rigorous party...

The treasure principle.(holiday clothing)
November 1, 2002... You'll love them instantly. You'll own them forever. Welcome to O's holiday bazaar, where velvet coats spangled shawls, dangling earrings, and embroidered handbags can transform your ordinary evening things into The Arabian Nights. The...

Girls and sex: you won't believe what's going on.
November 1, 2002... FACT: OVER 30% OF NINTH-GRADERS HAVE HAD INTERCOURSE. FACT: 12-YEAR-OLDS ARE SAYING ORAL SEX IS NO BIG DEAL. FACT: IT'S A NEW WORLD OUT THERE. MICHELLE BURFORD OFFERS A STARLING BULLETIN FROM THE FRONT LINES OF TEENAGE NEED,...

Dirty dancing, California-style.(assistant principal does underwear check at dance)
November 1, 2002... CALIFORNIA ASSISTANT PRINCIPAL RITA WILSON TOOK IT UPON HERSELF TO SEE IF STUDENTS ENTERING A HIGH SCHOOL DANCE WERE DRESSED FOR A PROM--OR AN ORGY. SHE HAD NO IDEA SHE WAS ABOUT TO LAUNCH A NATIONAL CONTROVERSY ABOUT TEENAGERS, PARENTS, DRESS...

Dinner for 20 with the greatest of ease.(entertaining tips)
November 1, 2002... For Ina Garten, holiday celebrations aren't about stress, spending a fortune, or racing around. They're about delicious, just-help-yourself food, friends around your table, and going back for seconds. AN EDITOR AT A FASHION MAGAZINE once...

Bed, baaahhh, and beyond.(advantages of a good sleep)
November 1, 2002... Your mother wasn't just trying to get you out of her hair when she said you needed your beauty sleep. It turns out it's not only good for your health but absolutely great for your face. So what's a girl got to do to get some quality rest? Kitty...

The life of the party.
November 1, 2002... You don't have to dress like a femme fatale to do night right. For model-turned-role-model Christy Turlington (her book on yoga is just out) and her like-minded friends, the best festive clothes the best festive clothes are low-stress,...

Jerusalem hope: in the midst of conflict stands a medical center where physicians from both sides have forged an amazing truce.(Hadassah medical centers)
November 1, 2002... T A WORLD-RENOWNED hospital in Jerusalem, Jewish and Arab doctors and nurses work side by side in a fragile, imperfect, but nearly miraculous coexistence. They treat both victims of suicide bombings and the terrorists who set off bombs, wounded...

What can we do?(working toward peace)
November 1, 2002... Do you feel helpless when the nightly news shows us more violence in the world? Do you wonder if there's anything you can do? TISH DURKIN asks artists, writers, teachers, nurses, and activists the question on all our minds. NAOMI SHIHAB...

Toot, toot, tootsies, don't cry. (Practical Matters).(home pedicures)
November 1, 2002... HAVING TROUBLE GETTING TO SLEEP ON A COLD WINTER NIGHT? TRY THIS SIMPLE FOUR-STEP MINI pedicure. After you've soaked, scrubbed, misted, and moisturized, you'll slip the softest feet between your flannel sheets. STEP A: THE SOAK "Fill...

The great white suit, four ways: a nice departure from dark clothes. It works. It plays. It deals well with winter (and will waltz into spring).(Brief Article)
November 1, 2002... Work lightens up The shapely suit (slightly puffed shoulders, slim waist, cuffed trousers) goes well with pastels--and this is the year of the sweater. Wool gaberdine jacket, $275, and pants, $180, Trina Turk. Wool-and-cotton sweater, $29,...

Christy Turlington's yoga style. (Fash).(Living Yoga: Creating a Life Practice)
November 1, 2002... She leaped from fashion whirl to a balanced life. For more on christy, see "The Life of the Party." IF YOU CAN'T FOLD YOUR LEGS INTO lotus position, don't worry. Yoga isn't about being superflexible. "It's a whole philosophy" says...

When two's a crowd: a couple de-clutters. (Home).(Brief Article)
November 1, 2002... How do these his-and-her storage boxes stack up? For him, they're to have and to hold guy-gear. For her, a second home for jewelry; sweaters, love letters. (Inspired by "Can This Marriage Be Organized?" page 99.) FOR HIM 1. A...

Dinner for 20--with the greatest of ease. (The Recipes).(holiday cooking)
November 1, 2002... No. 1 strategy for hostess sanity this holiday: Serve Ina Garten's no-fail, totally delicious buffet (for story, see page 218). Recipes are adapted from Barefoot Contessa Family Style, The Barefoot Contessa Cookbook, and Barefoot Contessa...

"The same questions follow every woman through girlhood and adolescence: can I really do this? Will I get it right? Am I okay?" (What I Know for Sure).(effects of rape on a child)
November 1, 2002... I FIRST LEARNED ABOUT SEX THE year I was 9. I was living in Milwaukee that summer, staying at an uncle's home, when a 19-year-old cousin raped me. As I trembled and cried, he took me for ice cream and convinced me not to tell--and for 12 years...

Skinny sipping. (The Fitness Page).(beverages that help weight loss)
November 1, 2002... Beverages can be sneaky diet saboteurs, piling on calories you barely notice. But tantalizing evidence suggests some drinks actually help you shed pounds. Milk The promise: Replace 400 calories of food with four 8-ounce glasses of...