O, The Oprah Magazine articles from May 2003

O, The Oprah Magazine archives from May 2003

Letters.(Letter to the Editor)
May 1, 2003... We hear you! Readers applaud the Williams sisters' smashing delivery question whether makeup makes the woman, and sympathize with stomach obsession. I related to Michelle Burford's "Attack of the Killer Comment," in the March issue....

Mothers: the good, the bad, the super--and the challenge. (Here We Go).(Brief Article)
May 1, 2003... THE GREAT CHALLENGE OF MOTHERING ISN'T JUST having a child. It's giving that child exactly what he or she needs to grow into a confident, self-loving adult who can offer something back to the world. A woman I met in my audience last year is...

The idea is mothers & daughters. (Calendar).(Calendar)
May 1, 2003... 1 THURSDAY "There is...nothing to suggest that mothering cannot be shared by several people." H.R. Schaffer, psychologist 2 FRIDAY 3 SATURDAY "We mothers are learning to mark our mothering success by our daughters'...

Dr. Phil: "I don't care what you do, but get this boy's attention"! (Tell it Like it is).
May 1, 2003... PHILLIP C. McGRAW, PHD, on helping a hefty husband...baby envy... and when to call it quits in a marriage. I'm very worried about my husband's weight problem. He has been overweight as long as I have known him but has put on even more...

Suze Orman: "we get into trouble by ignoring our instincts". (Financial Freedom).
May 1, 2003... 'Which comes first--your future or your children's?...the what-ifs of being widowed...insuring yourself securely...and asking for a raise. My husband and I have two young children, ages six and eight. We know we're going to want to send...

Live your best life.(Brief Article)
May 1, 2003... I have come to the present, daughter of mothers and mother to a couple of grown-up people. They have left home. What have I forgotten to tell? I have told them to be kind. Why? Because my mother was. I have told them when they drop a nickel (or...

Suzan-Lori Parks's aha! Moment. (Turning Point).
May 1, 2003... What should an artist-in-residence do when she's not really wanted? Do the write thing (hey it won the Pulitzer). OKAY, I'M GOING TO TELL YOU A story About five years ago, I was offered a job at a theater. They wanted me to be their...

The Sidekick. (Tech).(Brief Article)
May 1, 2003... Imagine: an itsy-bitsy secretary who fits in your palm, gets and sends e-mail, and doubles as a cell phone. JOHN HOUSE pays homage to When he issued the famous dictum "Only connect," E.M. Forster neglected some important details. The...

The know list. (Tech).(Brief Article)
May 1, 2003... On the Tweet Where Live The Spiff Kit Birdhouse-decorating fundraisers may soon replace bake sales and car washes. "We'll dolt till we're sick of it," says Cynthia Clark, who helps run the monthlong birdhouse auction in historic...

A beautiful mind. (Use Your Life).(Michael Daube)
May 1, 2003... Who would have thought an old David Hockney drawing would yield a hospital in India and a clinic in Mexico? MARGIT BISZTRAY profiles Michael Daube and his extraordinary Organization, Citta. I 1994 ARTIST MICHAEL DAUBE WAS rummaging through...

Welcome to Readerville. (Great Idea).(Brief Article)
May 1, 2003... Karen Templer's Web site is a virtual magnet for passionate readers. In May 2000, graphic designer Karen Templer invented her dream job. A booklover who realized that reading is solitary and can isolate people, she created an online forum...

The show goes on. (Dream Big).(a theater on a reservation in South Dakota)
May 1, 2003... Erika Schneider--a winner of O's Big-Dream contest--starts a theater on a troubled South Dakota Indian reservation that unites generations, changes lives, and brings down the house. 'DID WE MISS THE TURN?" It's easy to lose your...

Q: short of renting a deserted island, where can I go for a tranquil camping experience? I've heard that conventional campsites can be as hectic as Grand Central Station. Any ideas? (Travel).(Brief Article)
May 1, 2003... Q: Short of renting a deserted island, where can I go for a tranquil camping experience? I've heard that conventional campsites can be as hectic as Grand Central Station. Any ideas? A: Desert camping takes the traditional...

Your main squeeze. (Good to Eat).(JUST-RITE CITRUS JUICER )(Brief Article)
May 1, 2003... Not a morning person? A juicer that looks like a giant orange will brighten your kitchen counter, and maybe your mood. Lift off the lid (it doubles as a serving pitcher), push an orange half down on the pressure-activated electric juicing...

The Ben & Jerry of pasta. (Good to Eat).(Andrew Blechman)(Jeremy Stanton)(Brief Article)
May 1, 2003... Looking for a fresh start, New Yorker Andrew Blechman headed for the hills--the Berkshires, more accurately--where he tasted Culinary Institute graduate Jeremy Stanton's pasta at a local farmers' market. Though Blechman, a former journalist,...

Chocolate of the month. (Good to Eat).(Erik Landegren)(Brief Article)
May 1, 2003... Erik Landegren is passionate about turtles--of the chocolate variety. Founder and chocolatier of BRIDGEWATER CHOCOLATE in Connecticut, Landegren's signature pure, rich chocolate is threaded with creamy, addictive caramel. "When I started out, I...

Near madness. (Three Questions).(Holman, Virginia)(Interview)
May 1, 2003... When Virginia Holman was eight, her mother, an undiagnosed schizophrenic, whisked her and her baby sister off to a cottage in the Virginiawoods. Convinced she was helping the government fight a secret war, the mother blacked out the windows and...

Dance party: DJ Irene makes a wild sound unto the night--every night. (Music).(Brief Article)
May 1, 2003... Her music comes as a shock to the senses. "I'm like a freight train--don't get in my way or I'll run you over!" says Irene Gutierrez, 38. a.k.a. DJ IRENE, America's best-selling female disc jockey, whose fans rush the stage in clubs around the...

It's reigning women: the Moondance Festival reels in female filmmakers from all over the world. (Film).(Brief Article)
May 1, 2003... WHEN YOU THINK OF FILM FESTI-vals, Cannes and Sundance probably come to mind. But for women who make movies, the limelight shines brighter at the decidedly unglitzy MOONDANCE INTERNATIONAL FILM FESTIVAL. Just four years old,...

In Her Element. (Special Advertising Section).
May 1, 2003... Vaseline [R] Intensive Care [R] Presents. There is a paint when it all comes together, when a woman feels comfortable with herself and confident in her abilities. The uncertainty and hesitation are gone...she is In Her Element--and it...

The Joy Diet. (Martha Beck).
May 1, 2003... In her newest book, MARTHA BECK concocts a recipe for a fuller, happier, all-around zingier life. If that sounds appetizing, may we suggest menu item no. 10? I HAD JUST TRAVELED HOME FROM SINGApore to attend my sister's wedding. Now, a...

When bad manners happen to good women. (Satellite Sisters).
May 1, 2003... He's smart. He's funny. He eats like a pig. Question: When the man in your life slurps his soup, is it a deal breaker or no big deal at all? The Satellite Sisters dine out on the subject of sloppy table manners. Lian Dolan, 38, had two...

The six-of-one crisis. (Healing).
May 1, 2003... BONNIE FRIEDMAN had trouble making up her mind. (Should she take a shower? Go to the' concert? Stare at the dog?) Then she learned the secret of making crack decisions. I USED TO BE UNABLE TO DECIDE ANYTHING. I brooded and agonized,...

Where the wild things are. (Getting Organized).
May 1, 2003... Eight of the same sweater. The blue kimono you've never worn. And could those be...bell-bottoms? JULIE MORGENSTERN helps you sort, purge, and transform your closet. ONE OF MY CLIENTS HAS A FIVE-BEDROOM house that needed so much organizing...

The O list: "a few things I think are just great".
May 1, 2003... Feet of May "Slide these on just before the polish part of your pedicure, and you can breeze out of the salon without that extra hour of nail drying." (Spa Fleurs sandals, $22 a pair, Bonjour Fleurette; 415-382-1603; flowerslippers.com)...

Style bridging the generation gap: clothes used to come age-rated, like movies--you had angst about looking too young or too old. Now, with a week or two, mothers and daughters can share trends.
May 1, 2003... Cindy and Avril Joffe Both former lawyers, now co-owners of Avindy, a Jewelry design business; 28 and 51 CINDY (far left): "I wear necklace-friendly open-neck shirts-our signature style is a necklace that ties or wraps around" Mother...

Go with the faux: the jewels aren't real, but the glamour is. Don't save them for big nights; fakes add flash to everything from T-shirts to blazers, denim to silk. (Fashion).(Brief Article)
May 1, 2003... THE BIG IDEA: Wear major jewelry with everyday clothes. A ruby-rich bracelet with a tailored shirt; a mock-diamond necklace with a tee. The stones are faux, so the mood isn't ** serious (and the price tags aren't too huge). 1. Pewter bracelet...

La vie en rose: our love is like a big red rose--whether it's our favorite floral spritzer, perfume, or body cream. (Beauty Girls Toys).(Brief Article)
May 1, 2003... 1. With our first whiff of L'ARTISAN PARFUMEUR DROLE DE ROSE ($95), we thought, Hmm, rosebuds, oragne-flower water--a demure little fragrance. But suddenly we understood that we'd been fooled. Just behind its shy top notes were the deeper,...

The pearly gates. (Beauty Report).
May 1, 2003... Teeth brightening is no longer the sole province of movie stars and Baywatch babes. But which methods work best? And are they safe? CATHLEEN MEDWICK explores your razzle-dazzle options. "SMILE," THE DENTIST SAID. I hesitated. When you...

Ask Val. (Beauty Shopper).
May 1, 2003... Questions about eye shadow? You've come to the right place. O's director gives you the straight story Q: Are there ever any circumstances in which blue or green eye shadow is acceptable? It's so much easier to think of circumstances in...

Birds do it, bees do it. (Comfort Zone).(depictions on china, pillows and more)
May 1, 2003... Here's the buzz: Harbingers of spring--a bee-strewn pillow or a salamander teacup, quail-egg earrings or butterfly plates--are taking up residence in the home. It's only natural. HIGH TEA As charmingly precise and detailed as a...

Fry a little tenderness. (Great Food).
May 1, 2003... Bunuelos were cinnamony, sugar-dusted, and addictive. What did they say about his mother? PETER SMITH has a Texas-size eureka moment. CHARM IS NEARLY IMPOSSIBLE TO DEFINE, BUT I know it when I see it. Once, in my senior year of college, I...

12 things a stepmother should never say. (Family).
May 1, 2003... As far as hard jobs go, it's up there with air-traffic controller and crane operator. Stepmothers preside over a minefield of hidden hurts, half-concealed traditions, and occasional tugs-of-war. Want the job? ROSEMARY ROGERS shows you around....

Forgiving your parents. (Family).
May 1, 2003... They're the twosome it's hardest to see clearly. And easiest to blame. But letting them off the hook, psychologist ROBERT KAREN says, is the first step toward happiness, self-acceptance, and maturity. AN OLD FRIEND TELLS ME THAT SHE CAN...

Springahead! (Special Advertising Section).
May 1, 2003... The Spring season is almost here! Shake off your winter blues with new things to wear, own and enjoy Royal Caribbean International [R] Get out there [SM] with Royal Caribbean International [R]. The world's waiting, so call your local...

The fabric of their lives. (Family).(Excerpt)
May 1, 2003... JANISSE RAY and her mother did not share the same beliefs, but there was one place where they could patch together their clashes to form something that brought harmony, comfort, and everlasting beauty IN WINTER OF 1998, MAMA AND I began to...

The occasional husband. (Couples).
May 1, 2003... Breathing room? LAURIE WINER has it in spades-and she's married. An eight-month-a-year wife ponders aloneness, togetherness, and the annual arrival of a mysteriously enticing stranger: her husband. MY HUSBAND IS PACKING TO LEAVE. HE TEACHES...

Set an example: we salute these companies for their contributions to the community. (Advertisement).(Advertisement)
May 1, 2003... ROYAL CARIBBEAN INTERNATIONAL CRUISES FOR A CAUSE THE ROYAL CARIBBEAN FANTASTIC VOYAGE SETS SAIL ON EXPLORER OF THE SEAS[R] MAY 24-31, 2003. This "Party with a Purpose" raises over $1 million in scholarships for the Tom Joyner...

This side of heaven. (Reading Room).(Pilgrimage: The Spirit of Place by Gideon Bosker and Lena Lencek)(Brief Article)
May 1, 2003... What brings you here? A thirst for serenity, for sanctuary, for a place that seems to whisper "Welcome" to your soul. Pilgrimage: The Spirit of Place (Chronicle), by Gideon Bosker and Lena Lencek, has photos that make you catch your...

Caution: buried mother up ahead. (Reading Room).(Getting Mother's Body)(Book Review)
May 1, 2003... A prizewinning playwright's first novel is a fasten-your-seatbelts southern joyride. Francine Prose READING GETTING MOTHER'S BODY (RANDOM HOUSE) IS LIKE LISTENING TO A CHORUS OF voices: lyrical and raunchy, staccato and sustained,...

The best of us. (Reading Room).(A Patriot's Handbook: Songs, Poems, Stories, and Speeches Celebrating the Land We Love)(Book Review)
May 1, 2003... Take heart, America. A Patriot's Handbook: Songs, Poems, Stories, and Speeches Celebrating the Land We Love (Hyperion), selected and introduced by Caroline Kennedy, is exactly what we need these days to remind us of who we are and who we hope...

The visionaries. (Reading Room).(Bay of Souls)(Cosmopolis)(Book Review)
May 1, 2003... These are profoundly political times, so it seems fitting that two of our most politically prescient novelists, Robert Stone and Don DeLillo, are publishing new books. DeLillo's Cosmopolis (Scribner) is an expressionist comic nightmare: It...

The web she weaves. (Reading Room).(Runaway Girl: The Artist Louise Bourgeois)(Brief Article)
May 1, 2003... Louise Bourgeois was in her 60s before her edgy, sensuous sculptures--radical departures from the works of her abstract expressionist contemporaries--brought her international fame. In Runaway Girl: The Artist Louise Bourgeois (Abrams), by Jan...

Mixed nuts: a darkly funny memoir of being reared by wackos. (Reading Room).(Or, My Family and Other Foreigners)(Book Review)
May 1, 2003... Brenda Cullerton's mother gardened in black satin underpants. curlers, and pop-it beads. She would pull into the parking lot of Saint Mary's church, open the door, and with the car still moving, shove her children out "into the arms of the...

A Midsummer night's novel. (Reading Room).(Book Review)
May 1, 2003... Five friends who share a rented mansion--their lives and passions measured out in eight revelatory weekends. IT IS DIFFICULT TO WRITE A NOVEL ABOUT A ROSE GARDEN, YET MARCELLE Clements, in her fine, graceful Midsummer (Harcourt), has given...

Aloha to all that. (Reading Room).(I Myself Have Seen it: The Myth of Hawaii )(Book Review)
May 1, 2003... Even in a fragile environment, some things are eternal. Novelist Susanna Moore, who grew up in Hawaii, knows this better than almost anyone. In her cultural and personal history, I Myself Have Seen it: The Myth of Hawaii (National Geographic...

Her Alabama. (Reading Room).(Summer Snow: Reflections from a Black Daughter of the South )(Book Review)
May 1, 2003... "The porch was and is a two-way mirror," writes Trudier Harris in Summer Snow: Reflections from a Black Daughter of the South (Beacon). She's remembering porch sitters and passers-by acting out and hollering to each other across a stage not...

Biblio. (Reading Room).(Brief Article)
May 1, 2003... Recommendations from our shelf to yours. * Life, love, and the pursuit of forgiveness: These are the goals of Ava Sing Lo, the half-black, half-Asian-American heroine of The Book of Dead Bitas (Harper Collins), by Gayle Brandeis. Ava's...

Start the revolution with me. (Books).
May 1, 2003... Best-selling author, groundbreaking filmmaker, and America's favorite provocateur MICHAEL MOORE likes books that bite, fight, shake up your world, and challenge your mind. IN THE EARLY SEVENTIES, I JOINED a book-of-the-month club, and one...

357 calories burned while cutting the grass. (Your Body).
May 1, 2003... If you're bored to death by gym machines, try a lawn mower. A 135-pound woman pushing a nonpowered model will burn about 357 calories an hour and tone her arms. Even using a power cutter will work off 292 calories. And think of what you'll save...

Here's to your health! (Your Body).
May 1, 2003... The LLuminari Challenge, Part 5: BODY IMAGE You know that tape of self-criticism that loops in your head--about you weight, what you at, and how much? Did you get those messages from your mother? Think it's time to toss them? We do. And our...

Palm Beach County has long been a playground for the rich and famous. (Vacation Fun).(Brief Article)
May 1, 2003... Palm Beach County, Florida Palm Beach County has long been a playground for the rich and famous. But you don't have to be listed in the social register to enjoy it. Our 2003 coupon book can save you hundreds on nightlife, shopping, golf,...

Plan a Heartland spring getaway to Missouri and let the season cast its rejuvenating spell. (Vacation Fun).(Brief Article)
May 1, 2003... Missouri With warmer weather settling in, you've been itching to get outdoors again. What are you waiting for? Plan a Heartland spring getaway to Missouri and let the season cast its rejuvenating spell. Pack up the car and take a...

National Mississippi River Museum & Aquarium. (Vacation Fun).(Brief Article)
May 1, 2003... Old River, New Twist Navigate the waters of the mighty Mississippi and chart a course through gators, otters, fish and more at the National Mississippi River Museum & Aquarium, opening June 2003. Stay at the new Grand Harbor Resort &...

Explore St. Louis: there's more than meets the Arch. (Vacation Fun).(Brief Article)
May 1, 2003... There's no expiration date on memories. Create a scrapbook-worthy adventure for the entire family when you explore St. Louis in 2003. This year, we can show you how to follow the trails of Lewis & Clark or make tracks of your own to more than...

Is there a healer in the house? (Your Body).
May 1, 2003... Frank Lipman, MD, is a holistic physician who believes that health is a journey illness is a roadblock--and you the patient are in the driver 's seat. That's why his extraordinary practice is at the vanguard of a revolutionary new way to...

The way to eat.
May 1, 2003... Can I have healthy children if I'm a vegetarian? Is aspartame poisoning me? I know I have high cholesterol, but can I please have just one slice of pepperoni pizza? DAVID L. KATZ, MD steps up to the plate. Q. I have high cholesterol and...

The O interview Oprah talks to a mother of 9.(Interview)
May 1, 2003... Picture having 9 kids ranging in age from 8 months to 15 years. Do you (a) start your own small country (b) have yourself committed to a home for the terminally exhausted, or (c) think about having more? Oprah gets inside Kathryn Sansone's very...

Ice capades.(Nadia Rosen's granita)
May 1, 2003... Artist Nadia Roden's version of the classic Italian ice known as granita is anything but classic. Flavored with essence of melon or chocolate or orange or... horseradish?!...these glittering, fun-to-make ices are gorgeous served anytime--as a...

O's swimsuit intervention.
May 1, 2003... In the depths of winter, our fearless team of style experts flew to the Bahamas with a planeload of the latest bathing suits, then picked up women on the beach with a proposition they couldn't refuse: "You look good," we said. "But in the right...

Summer shine.
May 1, 2003... When the days get warmer, the morning sun makes us want to just get up and glow. Now's the time to simplify your routine. Instead of a rich face cream, try a pretty, tinted moisturizer. Skip the opaque winter lipcolor and slip on a deep,...

Budding personalities.(Joyce Tenneson)(Brief Article)
May 1, 2003... WHEN JOYCE TENNESON NEEDED MODELS for new book of photographs, she didn't have to go far. Tenneson lives right near New York City's commercial flower district, so Chineselantern lilies from South Africa, dinner plate dahlias from Holland, and...

Mothers & daughters.(Brief Article)
May 1, 2003... Your mother carried you inside her for nine months; you carry her inside you forever. Is any other relationship as complex, unbreakable, loving, disappointing, temper-tossed, life-shaping, and downright in-each-other's-hair as the one between...

Make your own mother.
May 1, 2003... You can custom-order bouquets of tiger lilies, the perfect pink paint, and every pizza under the sun. So why not the mother you've always wanted? Martha Beck on why--where the maternal is concerned--a mosaic of mother is the way to go. "WE...

Mothers & daughters: the learning curve.
May 1, 2003... Mary Stuart Masterson discovered how to love, how to cook, and how to be married. Rosario Dawson learned how to falk - really talk - to another person. Naom: Wolf got courage when she needed it most. And you should hear what their mothers have...

If this fence could talk.
May 1, 2003... How do mothers and daughters walk that fine line between love and autonomy, privacy and intimacy? Amy Bloom has some experiences she wants to share. YES TO SHARING EYE MAKEUP, YES TO Sharing hairdressers, No to matching haircuts and...

Ask your mother to tell you a story.
May 1, 2003... Sometimes our mothers have histories and inner lives that we can't even begin to imagine. With one quiet reminiscence, M.J. Rose's mother untangled all her daughter's confusion. MY MOTHER'S VOICE LULLS ME, AS it always has when she tells me...

To have and to hold. (Love That!).(Brief Article)
May 1, 2003... Beach Bag. City tote. Summer briefcase. These carryalls with splashy patterns and happy colors go anywhere under the sun. PASSION FLOWER Give Hawaiian punch to neutral linen-- any summer basic--th this chic silk-screened take on...

How to get a $300 haircut at any price: want the best bangs for your bucks? Follow this advice. (Love That!).(Brief Article)
May 1, 2003... THE GREATEST HAIRCUT I EVER HAD COST ME A WALLET-EMPTYING $300, plus tip. I suppose I should have told my star stylist up front that I've got two left hands with a blow-dryer and brush. My silence cost me. Because what I didn't bank on were the...

Earthy delights. (Love That!).
May 1, 2003... Whether you're weeding daffodils or keeping bugs off tomato plants, gardening is a labor of love. Work it to the hilt with a few good tools. IT'S GROUND BREAKING Losing the war against weeds? Try this weapon with a multifunctional...

"The world can only value mothering to the extent that women everywhere stand and declare that it must be so". (What I Know for Sure).(Brief Article)
May 1, 2003... I'M A WE OF GOOD MOTHERS--THOSE heroines all around me who sacrifice daily out of love for their children. In our society, we give motherhood plenty of lip service. We pat moms on the head, bring them flowers on Mother's Day, and honor them...