O, The Oprah Magazine articles from June 2005

O, The Oprah Magazine archives from June 2005

The aging eye.
June 1, 2005... The saying goes that the eyes are the windows to the soul. Much to the dismay of women everywhere, they also tend to reveal the signs of aging. During the aging process, the skin under the surface of the eye goes through several changes...

We hear you! Readers get inspired to take care of their health ... scarf down our superfoods recipes ... debate "sanitized" language ... and point out a lifesaving lesson in the story of the Fultz quads.(letters)(Letter to the Editor)
June 1, 2005... In April's "What I Know for Sure," Oprah said you can't pretend your body is going to work forever no matter how you treat it. That statement hit me like a ton of bricks. After almost three years of doing without a real vacation, of neglecting...

What men won't ever tell you--until now.(here we go)(Brief Article)
June 1, 2005... What a difference a Y chromosome makes! For this issue, we've asked some of the finest male writers we know to let us in on a secret: What is it that women don't understand about men? [ILLUSTRATION OMITTED] Apparently, the answer is:...

What's going on: noteworthy events & happenings.(Advertisement)
June 1, 2005... Blackstone Winery Sonoma Wines Blackstone now offers a series of Sonoma appellation wines that showcase the versatility of this wine region. Visit us in the heart of the Sonoma Valley to taste our stunning wines from Sonoma, Monterey...

The subject is men.(Calendar)
June 1, 2005... JUNE [ILLUSTRATION OMITTED] "What is most beautiful in virile men is something feminine; what is most beautiful in feminine women is something masculine." --SUSAN SONTAG [TABLE OMITTED] [TABLE OMITTED]

Dr. Phil: "it's time to cut your losses and kick him to the curb!" Phillip C. McGraw, PhD, on a cheating boyfriend, a workaholic husband, and an extramarital friendship in need of boundaries.(tell it like it is)
June 1, 2005... Q For six months, I've been dating a great guy I've known half my life. A few weeks ago, his best friend asked us over to meet his new girlfriend. Long story short, my man leaves with her and later denies that anything happened, even though...

Suze Orman: "your husband may spend your money and bounce checks, but you, my love, are the one living in emotional poverty"; A young wife struggles with her husband's irresponsible spending ... a grieving mother deals with her son's life insurance policy ... and a divorcee rolls over her ex's 401(k).(financial freedom)
June 1, 2005... Q My husband of three years has a job, but he bounces at least two checks a month and has no assets except for the things we've bought together with money I've earned. Though we've never had a joint banking account, his credit score is starting...

Great people, places, things, and ideas.(live your best life)(Poem)
June 1, 2005... MY FATHER The memory of my father is wrapped up in white paper, like sandwiches taken for a day at work. Just as a magician takes towers and rabbits out of his hat, he drew love from his small body, and the rivers of his hands...

Try a little tenderness: two new films explore the engine--and simple poetry--of love.(Movies)(Me and You and Everyone We Know; Yes)(Movie Review)(Brief Article)
June 1, 2005... THERE'S NO RULE SAYING art films have to be full of taboo sexuality, disturbing imagery, or grad school pretension. For proof, look no further than the phenomenal indie tour de force Me and You and Everyone We Know, written and directed by...

Good point.(LYBL)(Brief Article)
June 1, 2005... "Cynicism is a belief in... nothing. You've already met cynics, I'm sure: They're those people who tell you they see things how they really are, and that things are really rotten. They believe that no one is sincere, and that everyone has...

What a little Moonlight(ing) can do.(On DVD)(Moonlighting (Seasons 1 and 2))(Brief Article)(Television Program Review)
June 1, 2005... It was the eighties equivalent of a thirties screwball comedy, with its split-second timing, death-defying chase scenes, romance, intrigue, private eyes, and preposterous pratfalls. But more than anything, Moonlighting was about ferocious lust,...

Brian Williams's Aha! Moment; breaking news: the NBC anchorman learns that love is what happens while you're making other plans.(LYBL)
June 1, 2005... NINETEEN YEARS AGO, I WAS A 27-YEAR-OLD NEWS CORRESPONdent working for a local TV station, making no money, and enjoying the single life in Washington, D.C. I was concentrating on my career as a news anchor, one I'd wanted since I was an...

What's playing in Tori Amos's ear? The singer-songwriter gets her musical kicks from jazz-flecked organ riffs, heart-stopping Chopin, and the ever-wonderful Mr. Wonder.(Music)(Brief Article)
June 1, 2005... With the 1992 release of her angry, gorgeous breakout album, Little Earthquakes, Tori Amos ushered in a new wave of female alterna-rockers--Alanis Morissette, Fiona Apple, Paula Cole among them. The North Carolina-born former piano prodigy has...

Chills & thrills.(Treat)(Brief Article)
June 1, 2005... The glories of summer have finally arrived. Succulent tomatoes, watermelons, and strawberries are falling off the vine, and Stephanie Reitano, co-owner of Capogiro Gelato Artisans in Philadelphia, uses them all. Reitano creates heavenly batches...

The good guys: if you think these four are cute now, wait till you hear what they're doing.(What a Concept)(Brief Article)
June 1, 2005... DURING HIS SOPHOMORE year at the College of William & Mary, Nick Reiter had a friend who asked him to come to her dorm room--her roommate had just been raped by another student, and the women were scared to be alone. "I went over there and told...

Good point.(LYBL)
June 1, 2005... "As you make your way in the world, it's good to know that there's some man who cares about you and thinks that you are the greatest, most beautiful thing. That will take you a long way. The voices in the outside world get so nasty...

Go read it on the mountain.(Travel)(Brief Article)
June 1, 2005... Bringing new meaning to the idea of escaping into literature, the Aspen Summer Words (ASW) festival will take over the Colorado town from June 26 through 30, giving booklovers the chance to mingle with some of the biggest names in Irish...

Force of nature: she's survived jail, beatings, and endless death threats to help topple a tyrant, save Kenya's forests, and bring hope to countless women and children. Judith Stone spends two awed and inspired days in the radiant presence of the first African woman to win the Nobel Peace Prize, Wangari Maathai.(phenomenal woman)
June 1, 2005... AS WANGARI MAATHAI MAKES HER WAY through the crowded halls of the United Nations headquarters in New York City, she causes a stir of rock-star proportions. The first African woman--and first environmentalist--to win the Nobel Peace Prize, she's...

Something to think about: just when we're convinced we know everything about men, we stumble onto something new. Given how endlessly fascinating guys are, you might want to think of ways to deepen your connection to them. Find a comfortable place to consider the following.(Brief Article)
June 1, 2005... 1 Time to update your list of male friends. Who's on it? Think carefully about each guy. Is the friendship mutually fulfilling? Is there someone you should reconnect with, or someone you might want to let go of? 2 Dorothy Parker agreed:...

The O list.(Brief Article)(Product/Service Evaluation)
June 1, 2005... "A few things I think are just great."--OPRAH A Sleeker Slicker [ILLUSTRATION OMITTED] "Forget the bright design and reasonable price--the best thing about this raincoat is that it folds into a 10-by-12-inch matching pouch. Toss...

Key piece: here comes summer; three hot ways to stay cool: dressier, sexier espadrilles--some with open toes and wedge heels--oversize sunglasses in chic tints, and updated boat shoes for a sporty dash.(fashion)(Brief Article)(Product/Service Evaluation)
June 1, 2005... GIVE US SOME ROPE--especially on the soles of these happy, sexy classics. Espadrilles are among summer's hottest shoes, now that the flip-flop's popularity has waned a bit. More feminine than thongs or sneaks (but equally comfortable), they're...

Tell us how you're moving forward and we'll share your story.(Advertisement)
June 1, 2005... Is this the moment you accept that your life will be richer tomorrow than it was today? Is it the day you stop looking back and focus instead on the horizon? To move forward is to grow--however you define growing. But you need to define it for...

Look what we found! A versatile, luxurious tonic, an ocean of sublime summer makeup shades, and more. Here's what O's beauty editors--Valerie Monroe and Jolene Edgar--fell in love with this month.(beauty)(Product/Service Evaluation)
June 1, 2005... MANY YEARS AGO, we spent the better part of a summer captivated by a book that described a hidden spot: It was the sweetest, most mysterious-looking place any one could imagine. The high walls which shut it in were covered with the leafless...

Ask Val: to spray tan or not to spray tan ... Who needs toner?... Tweezing 101. O's beauty director, Valerie Monroe, gets to the bottom line.(beauty)
June 1, 2005... Q: Are spray-tanning booths safe? [ILLUSTRATION OMITTED] A: Relatively. By that I mean they're safer for your skin than cultivating a deep, damaging tan at the beach or on a tanning bed. But there are safety concerns even though DHA...

A day at the beach: hair-to-toe sun protection, the perfect self-tanner, and a comb you won't know how you lived without--11 brilliant new ways to make a day at the beach ...(beauty)
June 1, 2005... 1. LANCOME STAR BRONZER BRONZING HIGHLIGHTER ($30) warms your complexion more beautifully than the sun ever could. Sweep it across your nose and cheeks for a luminous (and safe) sheen. 2. BOBBI BROWN BEACH BODY LOTION ($35) nourishes skin...

The towel rack: adults aren't supposed to need comfort blankets, but we're still allowed towels--good, thick, infinitely soothing ones to wrap ourselves in after anything involving water. Here, the latest and lushest.(comfort zone)(Product/Service Evaluation)
June 1, 2005... NO CUTESY SHELLS or smiley suns here; in fact, no corny seashore cliches at all on this sophisticated beach terry. Now that designers have gotten in on the act, your towel can be as sleek as your suit. FYI: Quality counts--trying to dry a...

Havana nights: life and meals were bland, until a Cuban-American stepmother came into Andrew Friedman's world armed with late-night conversation and sensuously spicy food--including an unforgettable dish known as "old clothes.".(dish fulfillment)
June 1, 2005... GROWING UP IN MIAMI, I THOUGHT OF FOOD AS FUEL, something that had to be consumed periodically for energy and sustenance. How else could I think of it? My parents were divorced, and each had his or her own reasons for being strangers to the...

Dieting to a different drummer.(body wise)
June 1, 2005... Sometimes just seeing the word diet can make us reach for the potato chips. But simply by shifting your mental focus away from food, weight loss can happen without the usual pattern of obsession and backsliding. Experts explain the curious...

Watch out: curves ahead.(body wise)
June 1, 2005... Gyms specializing in half-hour circuit workouts have been sprouting up across the globe: Curves, one of the most popular, already has centers in 24 countries. These fast-sweat franchises, which include Ladies Workout Express and Liberty...

How to adore your big, beautiful self.(body wise)(Brief Article)
June 1, 2005... I'm big, black, bald, and beautiful," says sassified trainer Xina Sy, who teaches full-figured fitness at the Knowledge Shop in Marietta, Georgia. Sy is the creator of a 12-week diet-and-exercise plan called Resolutions for a Lifetime:...

The way to eat: cheers! Why red wine is even better than you thought ... keeping his prostate healthy ... and the ABC's of his-and-hers multivitamins.(body wise)
June 1, 2005... Q What's the best alcoholic beverage for a guy who's trying to be healthy but still wants to have a few drinks? --T.J. PIERSON, HOBOKEN, NEW JERSEY My top choice is red wine. All alcoholic drinks have some health benefits when consumed...

Get well card: an OnFile[TM] profile.(Advertisement)
June 1, 2005... You may know your knee bone's connected to your thigh bone and your thigh bone's connected to your hip bone. But did you know that your family's medical files can also all be connected? A new online service called OnFile acts as a secure...

Hysterectomies: what women don't know can hurt them; Every year more than 600,000 American women, a huge number of them African-American, undergo hysterectomies to get rid of fibroids--without realizing there are many other options. Supermodel Beverly Johnson has made it her mission to educate women about their full range of choices. Sarah Wildman reports.(body wise)
June 1, 2005... BEVERLY JOHNSON HAS BEEN A LOT OF things: the first African-American woman on the cover of Vogue, an entrepreneur, an actress, a mother. Two years ago, she added activist to that list when the National Women's Health Resource Center asked her...

Serious dark circles?[TM].(NEW PRODUCT UPDATE)(Product/Service Evaluation)(Advertisement)
June 1, 2005... "The first product specifically developed for serious dark circles... not the kind that pop up in the morning and are gone by breakfast, but the kind of serious dark circles that stay around forever... making you look old, tired and...

You belong to me.(O to go)
June 1, 2005... Instead of a striped tie, a nine iron, or a fishing lure, consider giving your father a breathtakingly great book on June 19--a mystery, a history, a memoir, a novel. But first, slide in one of these ex libris bookplates to make it his. ...

You ought to be in pictures.(reading room)(Abrams Encyclopedia of Photography)(Book Review)
June 1, 2005... Are you image conscious? If so, you'll want to keep The Abrams Encyclopedia of Photography close at hand. It's a marvelous resource--the place to go to see the infinite varieties of this ubiquitous medium, in which, said the poet Lamartine,...

Song of ourselves: Michael Cunningham's stunning new novel explores who we are--and who we are becoming.(reading room)(Specimen Days)(Book Review)
June 1, 2005... MICHAEL CUNNINGHAM showed in The Hours how a living imagination can make new from old: new language, new stories, new art. You might say he's done that again with Specimen Days (Farrar, Straus & Giroux)--instead of Virginia Woolf's Mrs....

State of the union: marriage isn't what it used to be. A provocative new book suggests that's just as well.(reading room)(Marriage, a History)(Brief Article)(Book Review)
June 1, 2005... "I do." With this declaration, countless women and men over the centuries have strode down the marital aisle, vowing to love each other till... [ILLUSTRATION OMITTED] Hold the chocolate truffles! As college professor and family...

Eerily ever after: a subtly haunting collection of grown-up fairy tales enchants and unsettles.(reading room)(Blue Beyond Blue: Extraordinary Tales for Ordinary Dilemmas)(Brief Article)(Book Review)
June 1, 2005... I READ MYSELF TO SLEEP MOST NIGHTS, AND MAYBE THE SUREST way I can express the strange power and disturbing insights embedded in Lauren Slater's fairy tales for adults, Blue Beyond Blue: Extraordinary Tales for Ordinary Dilemmas (Norton), is to...

American injustice: what women face behind bars--a shocking report on a hidden scandal.(reading room)(World Apart)(Brief Article)(Book Review)
June 1, 2005... It took years and a fierce legal battle for Cristina Rathbone to gain access to MCI-Framingham, a Massachusetts women's prison. But her struggle turned out to be well worth it. The result is A World Apart (Random House): at once a group...

Weeding & writing.(reading room)(Wild Braid: A Poet Reflects on a Century in the Garden)(Brief Article)(Book Review)
June 1, 2005... Stanley Kunitz turns 100 in July. The Wild Braid: A Poet Reflects on a Century in the Garden (Norton), an intimate collection of poems, musings, and conversations with poet Genine Lentine and photographs by Marnie Crawford Samuelson, celebrates...

The real rules: worshipped any idols lately? Are you sure? The Ten Commandments get an impassioned update.(reading room)(Losing Moses on the Freeway)(Brief Article)(Book Review)
June 1, 2005... At a time when the mere mention of religion can excite so much passion, anxiety, and discord. Chris Hedges's Losing Moses on the Freeway (Free Press) offers a sane and bracing way to think about, and rethink, the whole subject of faith. Each of...

Steppe sisters: Russian women juggling men, love, family, and vodka. Familiar tales with an icy, exotic edge.(reading room)(Sonechka: A Novella and Stories)(Brief Article)(Book Review)
June 1, 2005... LUDMILA ULITSKAYA, BORN IN THE URAL REGION OF RUSSIA AND formally trained as a geneticist, has turned her attention to a different type of decoding: writing--with great care and precision--about the emotional lives of women. The well-drawn...

Biblio: four books about women taking control of their lives.(reading room)(Wonder Spot; Twilight; Orange Blossom Special; Whatever Makes You Happy)(Book Review)
June 1, 2005... In The Wonder Spot (Viking), a page-turner from Melissa Bank (The Girl's Guide to Hunting and Fishing), this everywoman is self-deprecating, mordantly clever Sophie Applebaum, who copes with an overly exuberant mother, two romantically...

Books that made a difference to rob morrow: the numbers star makes up for lost reading time with books about belief, modern classics of artistic conflict, and an acting manual that's like magic.(reading room)(Reflections on the Art of Living: A Joseph Campbell Companion; Sanford Meisner on Acting; Moon and Sixpence; History of God; Agony and the Ecstasy)(Book Review)
June 1, 2005... AS A KID, I WAS REBELLIOUS, I WAS TOO COOL TO read. I even dropped out of high school in September of my senior year. Seven months to go and I quit--such a stupid thing to do. [ILLUSTRATION OMITTED] I didn't read for pleasure until I...

Share common sense.(Special Advertising Section)(Advertisement)
June 1, 2005... Tips for Better Living from the SCOTT[R] Common Sense Community Because we all share common concerns, common goals, common needs, there's no better time to share common sense. The SCOTT[R] Common Sense Community is the place to swap...

Warning: moving in together could be hazardous to your relationship.(advice, etc.)
June 1, 2005... Sharing a bed with the man you love: easy. Sharing the fridge, medicine cabinet, chores? Not so much. O's resident life coach wants to help you avoid the pain, petty annoyances, and is-homicidal-too-strong-a-word? fury of cohabitation. ...

The truth about men and dogs: why can't a man be more like a dog? Woof!--he is! In fact, the mutt in your life may be uncannily similar to the guy asleep on the sofa, fetching the paper, or jogging by your side in the park. Vicki Croke bones up on a pet theory.(advice, etc.)
June 1, 2005... CYNTHIA MOSES, A WILDLIFE DOCUMENTARY FILM-maker in Washington, D.C., has dated all kinds of men--quick-tempered artists, uptight lawyers, and self-absorbed businessmen. But the 55-year-old is happy at last, involved in the most winning romance...

Oprah talks to Jon Stewart.(THE O INTERVIEW)(Interview)
June 1, 2005... What do you get when you cross Lenny Bruce with Walter Cronkite? Jon Stewart holds his wit as a shield against pretentious politicians, showbiz poseurs, and media spin doctors. He's one of the many men worth listening to on the following pages....

Swimsuit intervention.(Product/Service Evaluation)
June 1, 2005... There's something about beachwear that seems to lead otherwise stylish people to make very public mistakes. Enter O's crack fashion team, who flew to the U.S. Virgin Islands with suitcases full of glamorous spandex. Our mission: Match the right...

The simple life: by using only three bright, bold ingredients--that's right, just three per recipe--chef and cookbook author Rozanne Gold has brought freedom, flavor, and all the colors of the rainbow to summer meals. So good. So easy. Say "aah.".(Brief Article)
June 1, 2005... YOU CAN USE THE EXPRESS LINE AT. THE SUPERMARKET and spend relatively little time in the kitchen while still turning out a meal that's impressive enough for company. I've been doing it myself for years. [ILLUSTRATION OMITTED] ...

Breathing space.
June 1, 2005... Watch lilac clouds shift over the Soldier Mountains as you cross this prairie of delicate camas lilies in southern Idaho. Listen to the call of loons from the marsh in the distance. PHOTOGRAPH BY LELAND HOWARD

Love and terror: a year ago, Yusra Abdu was a 17-year-old Palestinian girl in love with clothes, photography, and a charismatic young rebel named Hani Akad. Today, after a plot as full of twists and treachery as a Shakespearean tragedy, Hani is dead and Yusra is in jail, convicted of planning a suicide mission against Israel. David France reports on one of the youngest casualties of an unending conflict.(SPECIAL REPORT)
June 1, 2005... Yusra Abdu's mother and father had no idea what their 17-year-old daughter was planning, or if they suspected something, they're not letting on. In the Palestinian West Bank, surrounded by Israeli soldiers and steeped in a half-century of...

96 amazing and endearing facts that will forever change the way you look at men.
June 1, 2005... First let's agree that men are people, too, perfectly capable of doing science, raising children, running the country, shedding the occasional tear. On the other hand... have you tried to talk to one lately? This month we explore--very gently,...

Band of brothers: nobody understands men like a woman who grew up with seven cool, teasing male siblings. Ask Sarah Broom.
June 1, 2005... HERE IS THE thing: I can barely remember ever considering men to be great mysteries. There were far too many of them messing around in my life for that. I was born into a clan of men, seven brothers in all. They measure all shades of a brown...

What men wish you knew about them: they laugh! They cry! They need to be alone! They want to be your hero! O asked some famously perceptive male writers, "If you could let women in on one secret about men, what would it be?".
June 1, 2005... The Heroes Inside Us This is the secret. This is the great truth. We don't particularly value our own existences. It starts around age 3 and never stops: the process of rehearsing all the ways in which we might gloriously die. We've...

The no-shows: can you bare it? Sheer bras, slips, camis, and panties offer unconditional, unobtrusive support under summer clothes.(Fashion)(Brief Article)(Product/Service Evaluation)
June 1, 2005... Summer's Little Helpers * STRAPS CAN'T SLIP when an elastic strip hooks onto your bra's back straps, pulling them toward the center. Strap-Mate, $9. * PERFECTLY CLEAR straps won't divulge your means of support. Buy separately and...

He cleans up nicely: little luxuries that get him out the door looking fine and smelling mighty attractive (if you don't steal them first).(Beauty)(Brief Article)(Product/Service Evaluation)
June 1, 2005... PACKAGED SIMPLY in amber, black, and gunmetal gray, the very handsome items you see here are not beauty products--they're grooming products. Light, clean, and innocuous, they were made with men in mind: men who would rather wash with Palmolive...

The simple life; Summertime and the cooking is easy: lemon-tahini tomatoes, seared tuna with corn, yogurt "cheesecake" with strawberries and pineapple syrup, and more (for story, see page 196).(THE RECIPES)
June 1, 2005... All recipes make 4 servings. For additional recipes, see oprah.com. [ILLUSTRATION OMITTED] Poached Peaches and Raspberries in Sauternes 4 large ripe peaches, washed and dried 2 1/2 cups Sauternes, ice wine, or white port 1 pint...

Shop guide (all prices are approximate).
June 1, 2005... COVER/HERE WE GO P.33 Tory by TRB tunic, $798; toryltd.com. Ralph Lauren pants, $355, Bloomingdale's, NYC. Demner peridot and diamond earrings, price upon request; 212-794-3786. Carolina Bucci 18kt-gold and green-silk bracelet, $2,343;...

What I know for sure.
June 1, 2005... I just finished taping a show where I sat in a room for two hours with seven men of different ages and backgrounds and one thing in common: They had all cheated on their wives. [ILLUSTRATION OMITTED] This was one of the most...