O, The Oprah Magazine articles from June 2003

O, The Oprah Magazine archives from June 2003

Letters.(Letter to the Editor)
June 1, 2003... We hear you: Readers weigh in on workaholism and Oprah's visit to South Africa, and are moved by women's letters to their younger selves. I would like to commend Oprah for bringing joy to the children of South Africa ["O Happy Day!,"...

Ah, men. (Here We Go).(Brief Article)(Editorial)
June 1, 2003... THEY GET FRUSTRATED, THEY get scared--sometimes they even want to cry. This month you'll get the real deal on feelings the men in our lives often keep hidden, beginning with straight talk from seven guys we rounded up for "Men: Who Are They?...

Calendar.
June 1, 2003... June 4 WEDNESDAY "It is hard to be a man. I am certain of it; to be a man in this world is not easy." --Peggy Noonan, author 6 FRIDAY Honey, if he still isn't listening to you, get rid of the lug. Today, start hunting...

Dr. Phil's Manual. (Tell it Like it is).
June 1, 2003... You probably have one of these at home, or you're considering acquiring one--an adult human male. Here, Phillip C. McGraw, Phd, provides a consumer guide to your model's inner workings. Don't start him up until you've read these instructions...

Suze Orman: "start where you are to create the life you want". (Financial Freedom).
June 1, 2003... On irresponsible in-laws...the getting-what's-yours guide to divorce...the marriage of a risk-taker and a play-it-safer...and taking care of loved ones. I love my husband's parents dearly, but they are financially irresponsible. They filed...

Eve discovers Adam. (Live your Best Life).(Fictional Work)
June 1, 2003... In the beginning--and in Mark Twain's The Diaries of Adam and Eve--there was man. Then arrived woman. Curious, opinionated, and talented at naming things, the very first lady decides she is an Experiment and turns her attention to her partner...

Girl power. (Movies).(Whale Rider)(Movie Review)
June 1, 2003... An extraordinary film from New Zealand has been wowing crowds at festivals around the world, racking up prizes and teary standing ovations. Whale Rider uses the unlikely topic of Maori tribal legend as a springboard for a young woman's...

Mark your calendar! (LYBL).(New York performance by DanceBrazil)
June 1, 2003... The dynamic and acrobatic DanceBrazil troupe brings the art of capoeira to North America during a yearlong tour. Catch them at New York City's Joyce Theater May 20 through 25. Part martial arts, part Afro-Brazilian dance-and entirely...

Tina Fey's aha! Moment: the writer-comedienne owes just about everything great in her life to a three-letter word. (Turning Point).
June 1, 2003... SIX YEARS AGO, I MOVED FROM CHIcago to New York to work at Saturday Night Live. I packed up and was going through my things to see what I would take with me and what I'd leave behind. I found an orange folder--a regular school folder--in a...

Book buddies. (Use Your Life).(nonprofit organization Everybody Wins!)(Brief Article)
June 1, 2003... RECIPE FOR A POWER LUNCH: Combine one CEO, two bologna sandwiches, one grade school student, and one good book; stimulate vigorously That's the dream of Everybody Wins!, a national nonprofit that pairs kids with successful adults from a...

Let us spray. (Good to Eat).
June 1, 2003... Craving a homemade lime rickey but fresh out of seltzer? A vibrantly colored enamel iSi Soda Siphon saves you a trip to the supermarket- plus it's one of the coolest space-age-looking gizmos we've seen in a while. To slake a big thirst, just...

The sugarland express. (Good to Eat).
June 1, 2003... Dancing Deer Baking Co.'s cookies and cakes are clever as can be-the citrus shortbread daisies come in a tissue-lined vase-but one bite and you'll know there's more to them than artful packaging. (The word heavenly comes to mind.) You can...

Taste of Maine. (Good to Eat).(The Arrows Cookbook: Cooking and Gardening from Maine's Most Beautiful Farmhouse Restaurant)(Book Review)
June 1, 2003... Whether you want to grow your own greens or just learn how to saute them, The Arrows Cookbook: Cooking and Gardening from Maine's Most Beautiful Farmhouse Restaurant (Scribner), by Clark Frasier and Mark Galer, is an essential resource. In...

Chocolate of the month. (Good to Eat).
June 1, 2003... Matisse, Pcasso van Gogh, Payard We'll sweat that payard chocolate's creation are so beautiful, you almost don't want to take a bite, except you can't resist Hand sculpted and filled with liqueur fruit or puts each sumptuous piece is named or a...

A clean machine; it's the anti-SUV: sporty efficient, and good for the environment. John House on an accelerating craze--the hybrid electric vehicle. (Tech).(Brief Article)
June 1, 2003... YOUR AVERAGE SUBURBAN-DRIVING SUBURBANITE, happily piloting the land yacht to the hardware store and back, might look down--literally--on hybrid electric vehicles (HEVs) as the Birkenstock sandals of the automotive world: emblems of crunchy...

Q: I don't want to gain weight on vacation--and I also don't want to spend hours in a stifling hotel gym. Suggestions? (Travel).
June 1, 2003... Lace up your walking shoes and get off the beaten path. A company called Country Walkers can set you up on a guided, weeklong ramble through some of the prettiest villages in Europe (think olive groves and verdant gardens) or on any of 66 tours...

3 questions for Anna Lappe. (LYBI).(Interview)
June 1, 2003... IN 1969 FRANCES MOORE LAPPE DROPPED OUT of graduate school and soon began writing Diet for a Small Planet, which was published two years later. The best-seller urged people to eat a more plant- rather than animal-based diet as a way to end...

What's playing in Natalie Cole's ear: depends on whether she's getting a massage, feeling romantic, or celebrating Sundays. (Music).(Interview)
June 1, 2003... Six-time Grammy winner Natalle Cole is music royalty, and being the daughter of Nat "King" Cole has nothing to do with it. Okay, it has a little something to do with it; let's not forget "Unforgettable." But over the course of nearly three...

Honk if your car's a mess: shoes, notepads, Santana CDs. Is this a trash can on wheels? Julie Morgenstern helps put the brakes on backseat squalor. (Getting Organized).
June 1, 2003... LAST NIGHT I MET MY DAUGHTER NEAR my office after she met with her youth group. One of her fellow board members, a very sweet 20-year-Old, offered us a ride. He unlocked the passenger-side door and, before inviting us in, ducked inside, saying,...

The stay-at-home dad. (Couples).
June 1, 2003... Coincidentally their wives both have high-octane jobs. Coincidentally he and his brother cook, clean, schlepp kids to school, and question the foundation of their lives. SEAN ELDER reports on the ups, downs, grievances, little joys, and nagging...

The O list.
June 1, 2003... I've Got Sunshine on a Cloudy Day "Aren't you getting tired of seeing men in gray, beige, navy, and black all the time? This jacket is casual, water-repellent, and a gorgeous shade of orange." (Jacket, $145, Cole Haan; colehann.com) ...

The light touch: white with brights, white with black, white all by itself-it's what makes summer heat easier to take. Five women go beyond the pale. (Style Fashion).
June 1, 2003... RHIAN BENSON Songer-songwriter porn in Ghana, raised in India (Gold Goast, ber first album, is due out this month); 26 WHY WHITE? "it's a bold color, and the best thing in the heat-very comfortable, very serene." MEMORIES" On...

Reef encounter: coral was once used as a charm--to protect people from harm, to increase fertility, to calm. (Style).(coral jewelry)(Brief Article)
June 1, 2003... There comes a day in May or June when you're suddenly desperate to ditch your "important" winter jewerly (too weighty) and put on something small, light, bright. Coral is spicy but subtle, and nature has obligingly made it available in a range...

Pillow talk: throw pillows are the lapdogs of home decor--cute, friendly, eager to please, and easy to love. Toss them on a bed or a couch (even the floor), and the whole room relaxes. (Comfort Zone).
June 1, 2003... BLUE PRINTS Matched cushions in uptight rows can make you feel It's a crime to use the furniture. No more of that. For the most refreshing bed ever, cover yourself up in blues: The pileup of patterns includes clean cafe-awning stripes,...

Sun gleam: go for the golden with a luminous array of beautiful bronzers. (Beauty Girls Toys).
June 1, 2003... * Would you like to look as if you've just returned from a deluxe resort? Chanel Bronze Perfection ($60) is the Capri of bronzing compacts. Indulge yourself with a face cream, powders both in bronze and gold, and a lusciously pearlized...

Ask val: questions about self-tanners? You've come to the right place. O's beauty director, Valerie Monroe, gives you the straight story. (Beauty Shopper).
June 1, 2003... Q: Changing skin color with chemicals gives me the creeps. Are self-tanners safe? I used to think of those who self-tanned the same way I thought about those who used cell phones in public: Not My Kind of People. This summer you're likely...

The girls of summer. (Reading Room).(Sleepaway: Girls and the Camps They Love)(Book Review)
June 1, 2003... Wet, warm, and wonderful--how else to describe the summers joyously recalled in Laurie Susan Kahn's Sleepaway: Girls and the Camps They Love (Workman). The thrills of paddling downriver, short-sheeting your bunkmate's bed, and stuffing your...

Till another man does us part. (Reading Room).(Mortals)(Book Review)
June 1, 2003... WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN THE PERSON YOU LOVE HAS STOPPED LOVING you? Or, worse, continues to love you, but not as much as another, new presence in her life? That is the riddle confronting Ray Finch at the start of Norman Rush's immense, thrilling...

A peak experience. (Reading Room).(Buddhist Himalayas)(Book Review)
June 1, 2003... Some places in the world are so transcendently beautiful, they bring you to your knees. No wonder, then, that nomadic peoples living on the remote, windswept plateaus of the Himalayas believe "every part of nature...is an encouragement to...

Man's best therapist? The New Work of Dogs. (Reading Room).(Book Review)
June 1, 2003... Sandra is a childless divorcee, recognizing her maternal yearnings with the help of her dachshund puppy, Ellie. Rob Cochran is a successful lawyer, husband, and father, confronting both his loneliness and his need for solitude, thanks to his...

Landscapes of desire: a masterly writer astonishes with his breakthrough collection of splendid stories. (Reading Room).(All the Men Are Sleeping)(Book Review)
June 1, 2003... THE VERY BEST PRACTITIONERS OF the traditional short story bring a broad view to a narrow landscape. Short stories capture a moment, a few days, a particular thread in a character's experience, and expose what feels to us like the totality of a...

The sipping point: a frank, shockingly hilarious memoir of booze, family, loss, and victory. (Reading Room).(Dry)(Book Review)
June 1, 2003... Augusten Burroughs writes in such a disarming, lively voice that readers can't help but feel they've just found a new friend, one who's refreshingly frank and eager to draw us into his life. Burroughs--whose first book, Running with Scissors,...

The last wife: a friend remembers the beautiful, vilified, literary Mrs. George Orwell. (Reading Room).(The Girl from the Fiction Department)(Book Review)
June 1, 2003... THE ONLY THING HARDER THAN BEING THE WIFE OF A GREAT MAN IS BEING a genius's widow. That's one lesson readers may take away from The Girl from the Fiction Department (Counterpoint), Hilary Spurling's portrait of her friend Sonia Orwell, who had...

All that jazz. (Reading Room).(Art Deco 1910-1939)(Brief Article)
June 1, 2003... With its jazzy geometries, slim silhouettes, and shameless modernity, the Art Deco movement must have seemed tailor-made for fashion. Cutting-edge designers like Coco Chanel and avant-garde artists like Sonia Delaunay created sleek, sexy...

I am 16, going on 40: the cracked joy and pain of adolescence. (Reading Room).(Massachusetts, California, Timbuktu)(Book Review)
June 1, 2003... A day in the life on an adolescent girl pose nude for your artists mother to make up for your baby brother death console your little sister when your mom goes catatonic or takes off with her abusive lover; dance, write stories strategize starve...

Ann Patchett's 20th century unlimited: the author of Bel Canto likes a serving of modern classics--with a side order of memoir. .(Book Review)
June 1, 2003... MY MOTHER, JEANNE RAY, PUBlished her first novel, Julie and Romeo, when she was 60. Before she went out on a book tour, I gave her my best piece of advice: Keep a list of all the books that influenced you, because when people ask what you've...

Body wise.(walking for exercise)(Buyers Guide)
June 1, 2003... Walk it off: If the thought of getting into your bathing suit sends you into an exercise frenzy, slowdown. All you have to do is put one foot in front of the other- and walk. Research shows it's one of the best ways to ease weight off...

Here's to your health! The LLuminari Challenge, Part 6: men and women-vive la difference! (Body Wise).
June 1, 2003... We used to think women needed the same treatment as men but in smaller doses. We also thought the world was flat.... Welcome to the wave of the medical future and new research that can potentially save your life and his. HMMM, STOMACH...

The way to eat: David L. Katz, Md. takes on belly bulge, diet saboteurs, and trans fats. (Body Wise).
June 1, 2003... What's the best way to get rid of the belly fat that recent reports say is a risk factor for all kinds of health problems? At least once a month, someone asks me how far along I am, as if I were pregnant. I just want to cry every time it...

Flash in the pan: roasted shrimp; want to cook seafood in a simple, sumptuous way? Rori Trovato shows you how to prepare the tangiest jumbo shrimp you've ever tasted. Get ready for jumbo compliments. (Great Food).
June 1, 2003... "ONE AND A HALF POUNDS OF SHRIMP, peeled and deveined." If words like those at the top of a recipe prompt you to turn the page, you should know that shrimp wrangling is easy and quick. (And if you truly can't be bothered, there's the option of...

O Man!
June 1, 2003... They're everywhere, In our supermarkets and schools, our lumberyards and Laundromats, our fast food joints and Joint Chiefs of Staff. And just try going to a Yankees game or the auto show without coming face-to-face with literally dozens of...

How (not) to get a man: the rules tell you to scheme, flatter, and play hard to get. But Martha Beck doesn't think that will get you very far. Our favorite life coach rethinks the dating game.
June 1, 2003... AS I SCRIBBLE A FEW NOTES, A LARGE male--the one I have come to call Joe--sits barely ten feet away from me. His behavior and my knowledge of his species lead me to believe that he is seeking a mate. I watch breathlessly doubting that my story...

The glass ego.(Jay Carter)(Interview)
June 1, 2003... Here's a closely guarded secret: women have more influence over men than they think. Psychologist Jay Carter talks to Michelle Burford about male self-esteem, the criticism that could demolish a man, and what male intimacy is really about. ...

How to raise the men we'd want to marry: attention mothers of sons: women of the future are counting on you. Valerie Monroe tells how to bring up a good, kind, happy, mindful, nongrunting husband-to-be.
June 1, 2003... I WAS DESCRIBING IN PRODIGIOUS, enrhusiastic detail the trip to Japan from which I'd just returned with my then 15-year-Old son. "And he's so much fun to travel with," I went on to my patient friend. "His observations were really interesting,...

Men who are they? What goes on in their heads? What do they want with us?
June 1, 2003... They dodge, clam up, problem-solve when you just want them to listen, toss off "yes" or "no" answers when you were hoping to go deeper. The eternal question: What is it with them? For the answers, Lise Funderburg went straight to an expert,...

10 signs to run for your life: One guy is needier than quicksand. Another is jealous of your cocker spaniel. A third quietly hates all womankind. Pam Houston has a list of men you should put in your rearview mirror, ASAP.
June 1, 2003... * Joe No-Show YOU MEET IN A CITY WHERE NEITHER of you lives, at a convention or a wedding. The calls and e-mails are making the phone lines sweat; two months later he's begging you to visit. You tell the woman next to you on the plane that...

A day at the club.(weekend wear)
June 1, 2003... The glamour of Saint-Tropez, the retro appeal of 1950s country club fashion-put them together, and you get a new way to do weekends: sexy shift dresses, exotic tunics, gold jewelry worn with everything (even your bikini), and the cutest shoes...

Less is more of you: too many women hide behind thick makeup. Cosemtics whiz Sonia Kashuk helps a few volunteers strip clean and let their own good looks shine through.
June 1, 2003... IF YOU HAPPEN TO BE THE KIND OF WOMAN who follows beauty trends (or even if you're not), you may have noticed recently that when it comes to makeup, there seems to be an inexorable movement toward fresh and clean. We think it's a great idea: It...

Roadside attractions.(farm stands)
June 1, 2003... No matter where you live, there's a farm stand close by. So what are you waiting for, directions? Pull up and choose among a riot at summertime produce and create a kaleidoscopic gazpacho, a raspberry and basil jam, and the most gorgeous tomato...

The shirt of the season: cool tunics in hot colors: terrific to slip over your swimsuit or to dress up pants for a party. (Love That).(Brief Article)
June 1, 2003... * SIZZLING PINK--fashion doyenne Diana Vreeland once called it the navy blue of India--is the year's hottest color; the tunic may be summer's least stressful shape. Lauren by Ralph Lauren, $75. * DELICIOUSLY RICH DETAILS--beads,...

Mr. Clean. (Love That!).(Father's Day gifts)(Brief Article)
June 1, 2003... Just because he's a man doesn't mean he has to be stinky and stubbly. Help him get a fresh start this Father's Day with a luxurious (but deeply rugged) collection of men's products. (P.S. They're perfect for borrowing, too.) 1. The velvety...

"For me, doubt means don't. Don't move. Don 't answer. Don't rush forward". (What I Know for Sure).
June 1, 2003... IN MY EARLY YEARS OF TELEVISION, I WAS OFTEN overwhelmed by people's view of me as a benevolent caregiver. Some would spend their last dime on a bus ticket to get to me, children would run away from home, abused women would leave their husbands...