O, The Oprah Magazine articles from April 2004

O, The Oprah Magazine archives from April 2004

We hear you!(Letters)(Letter to the Editor)
April 1, 2004... February was hot, hot, hot (as in controversial, envelope pushing). A fashion photo of a loving lesbian couple. The don't-go-there side of in vitro fertilization. Readers express their outrage, approval, hopes, fears, and heartfelt...

Have the time of your life.(Here We Go)(Brief Article)(Cover Story)
April 1, 2004... WHO'D HAVE THOUGHT that with all the technology designed to give us more time--the microwave ovens, the TiVo that lets us fast-forward, the PalmPilots, the BlackBerrys--we'd be cramming all those "extra moments" we've saved with even more doing...

The subject is time.(Calendar)
April 1, 2004... April "And what if you were told: One more hour?" --Elias Canetti [ILLUSTRATION OMITTED] [TABLE OMITTED] [ILLUSTRATION OMITTED] [TABLE OMITTED]

Dr. Phil: "if you want different, you have to do different"; Phillip C. McGraw, PhD, on concern about a mother's depression ... behaving your way to success ... and a script for dealing with a verbally abusive husband.(Tell It Like It Is)
April 1, 2004... Q My mother has had a horrific life. I want to be there for her, but her myriad issues really stress me out. I've tried to tell her she should get help from someone more qualified, but she still feels the need to lean on me. Am I being selfish?...

Suze Orman: "don't let your emotions rule your finances"; Preparing for a divorce ... caring for a sick relative's finances ... and settling a couple's dispute.(Financial Freedom)
April 1, 2004... Q I'm 44 and contemplating a divorce from my spouse of 20 years. Without going into all the personal details, we own a home and have four kids--two of whom are in college. I have a car note and personal credit card balances of about $15,000. My...

At least.(Live Your Best Life)(Poem)
April 1, 2004... I want to get up early one more morning, before sunrise. Before the birds, even. I want to throw cold water on my face and be at my work table when the sky lightens and smoke begins to rise from the chimneys of the other houses. I...

What's playing in Alanis Morissette's ear? The multiple Grammy winner likes her music smart, soothing, kindhearted, and worldly (with a touch of wink).(Music)
April 1, 2004... Has the queen of bitter breakups and raw anger fallen into a pool of drippy romance? Exhibit A is "Knees of My Bees," an uplifting love song from Alanis Morissette's new album, So-Called Chaos (Maverick). Exhibit B is Ryan Reynolds, a fellow...

Screen gems: the newest, clearest, flattest TVs: John House cuts through the static.(Gizmo)(Brief Article)
April 1, 2004... DOES YOUR TV REMIND YOU OF NORMA Desmond? Like the gone-by goddess of Sunset Blvd., your set may be as big as it used to be. But it probably does seem that the picture got small, especially if your neighbors recently traded in their bulky...

Anticipation list: what we're looking forward to this month.(LYBL)
April 1, 2004... The legendary film Some Like It Hot has undergone a sex change thanks to Nia Vardalos (we've waited two years to see how Vardalos follows up her big fat indie block-buster, My Big Fat Greek Wedding). She wrote and stars in Connie and Carla, the...

Dr. Drew turns on the boob tube.(TV: Guest Critic)(Dr. Drew Pinsky)(Brief Article)
April 1, 2004... Years before Dr. Drew Pinsky became a sex therapist and the cohost of the call-in show Loveline, he dreamed of Jeannie. "I was 14," he says, "and she was as sexy as things got on television." To this day, he adds, he still takes those fantasies...

Get up, stand up! Rita Marley (widow of Bob) has not only kept up the fight, she's bounced out of her late husband's shadow, taken an entire African nation under her wing, and kicked off a remarkable second act.(Use Your Life)(Biography)
April 1, 2004... ROCK STAR WIDOWS ARE SUPPOSED to fade into the California sunset, shopping on Rodeo Drive and faithfully seeing their plastic surgeons every other year. Rita Marley has gone a different route. The widow of reggae great Bob Marley has journeyed...

Like a sturgeon.(Treat)(Brief Article)
April 1, 2004... Years of overfishing have brought the Caspian sturgeon to the brink of extinction, making domestic caviar more environmentally appealing. Don't turn up your nose: American caviars may not command as much snoot appeal as Caspian beluga, but...

Travel.(ideas for fine romance)(Brief Article)
April 1, 2004... Q: "My husband and I live in New York City with our three sons, a dachshund, and a PlayStation 2. Between work, carting the kids to soccer, and his business trips to San Francisco, we barely see each other. Any ideas for a fine romance?" ...

Nancy pelosi's aha! Moment: she was the only female in a room full of men. So why did the veteran congresswoman find herself flanked by so many cheering women?(Turning Point)
April 1, 2004... IN OCTOBER OF 2001, I became the first woman elected to the top leadership of either house of Congress. I'd been involved in politics my entire life and in Congress, at that point, for 14 years. I ran for Democratic whip, the...

Something to think about.(time management)(Brief Article)
April 1, 2004... We may insist that we're slaves to the clock (and other people), but we have more choice than we realize in how we use, or misuse, time. Where do your hours and days go? Find a quiet spot to identify the ways time operates in your life. Then...

Fear of free time: we want it, crave it, dream about it. But when life hands us a few empty hours, we squirm, wriggle, dodge, and feel unaccountably lazy. Martha Beck shows us how to find something in nothing and love it.(Martha Beck)
April 1, 2004... "SO," I SAID TO MICHELLE DURING OUR first session together, "if you were living your ideal life, what would you do today?" It's a standard opening I use with almost every client, and Michelle gave me the standard response. [ILLUSTRATION...

"I'll just do it myself".(Getting Organized)
April 1, 2004... Ellen was professional, detail-oriented, in complete command--and totally overwhelmed by mounting piles of paperwork. The solution? Delegating tasks to her assistant. Sound easy? It wasn't. JULIE MORGENSTERN convinces a one-woman band to let...

You've got ... clutter: e-mail messages. Spam. Dog-eared catalogs. Last month's electric bill. That baby shower invitation you've been ignoring. Julie Morgenstern hand-delivers a solution to in-box overflow.(Getting Organized)
April 1, 2004... EVERY YEAR THE U.S. POSTAL SERVICE delivers more than 200 billion pieces of mail--and an estimated 30 billion e-mail messages bounce around the Internet every day. This month's project is to develop a sane, efficient system to control the flow....

Love: it's all in your head; Is it possible to change another person's behavior--and transform a less-than-perfect relationship--simply by changing your own thoughts? Psychologist Henry Grayson's theory may very well revolutionize the way we look at love, friendship, and attachment. Mark Matousek reports.(Couples)
April 1, 2004... IN HIS HERETICAL BOOK, MINDFUL LOVING, HENRY GRAYson, an eminent New York psychologist, relates a story that perfectly captures his mind-altering theory of love. A despondent patient had come to Grayson's office, complaining about being married...

Tick, tick, tick ...: fill in these friendly-reminder cards with all the things you've been meaning to make time for, and let our illustrious cheering section spur you on.(O to Go)
April 1, 2004... "A single day is enough to make us a little larger...."--Paul Klee I will make time for... "This time, like all times, is a very good one, if we but know what to do with it."--Ralph Waldo Emerson "The whole life of man is but a...

The O List.(product introduction)(Brief Article)
April 1, 2004... "A few things I think are just great."--OPRAH Come Rain or Come Shine "April showers call for an umbrella that promises May flowers are on their way." (Umbrella, $98, Jan de Luz; 877-800-3011) The Next Fig Thing "A bath...

The most happy color: yellow is red-hot--but is it too much for some skin tones to handle? Not if you pick a shade that brightens your face, plus warmer, gleamier makeup. O helps eight women figure it all out.(Style Fashion)
April 1, 2004... GIA GALEANO Dancer and actor Color Theory A splash of yellow, like the flowered chiffon scarf she wore to the O photo shoot, was the furthest Gia would go--until now. "I was afraid that more might make me look green or be too...

The color purple: spin a simple, neutral room into a richly sophisticated realm with purple. It's the king of colors. Let it reign.(Comfort Zone)
April 1, 2004... ULTRAVIOLET A deep, dark, organically shaped vase filled with something lush and mauve-ish. Lavender candles nested in amethyst. Layers of color and scent make your indoor weather sensuous, complex, a bit mysterious. That's the natural...

Flash in the pan: Chilean seafood stew; Perfect for spring, limey, and light, Rori Trovato's main course is quick and sumptuous.(Great Food)
April 1, 2004... RECENTLY, I HAD A STEW TASTING at my place: six stews, 12 mouths. The unanimous winner, Chilean seafood stew, made me wonder if I'd rigged my own contest. With its chunks of Chilean sea bass (halibut would be just as good) and shrimp, this dish...

Look what we found! A green eye shadow for everyone (yes, even you), four skin-perfecting foundations, cheeky new blushes for spring, and more.... Here's what O's beauty editors fell in love with this month.(Beauty Girls' Toys)
April 1, 2004... KEEP AN EYE OUT You'll be seeing a plethora of green shadows in every shade and intensity this spring. Though some of the brighter colors--aquamarine, kelly--may seem daunting, we guarantee that there's a gorgeous one you can wear. A soft khaki...

Beauty treatments what's worth your time ... and what isn't: from professional teeth whitening to a daily splash of toner, the things we do for beauty don't just cost money, they take a chunk out of our day. BETH JANES subjects five popular options to a rigorous cost-benefit analysis.(Beauty Report)
April 1, 2004... I ONCE SPENT 90 MINUTES NAPPING, WRAPPED IN a blanket that delivered gentle electrical currents to my clay-and-seaweed-coated "problem" areas. Post shockfest, the aesthetician, tape measure in hand, tried to convince me that I'd lost an inch...

Ask Val: questions about caring for your eyebrows? You've come to the right place. O's beauty director, Valerie Monroe, gives you the straight story.(Beauty)
April 1, 2004... I may be the last 40-year-old eyebrow virgin. But recently I've been considering shaping my brows. I've even bought a pair of tweezers. How do I start? [ILLUSTRATION OMITTED] Put down the tweezers. Shaping your own brows is a little...

Let the sunshine in.(Body Wise)(Brief Article)
April 1, 2004... Now that we've been programmed to slather sunscreen on every inch of unclothed skin, some researchers are suggesting that all this sun avoidance could be harmful. In a recent letter to the BMJ (British Medical Journal), Cedric Garland, an...

Pain in the brain.(Body Wise)(Brief Article)
April 1, 2004... The words we choose when describing "heartache" or "hurt" feelings may be more accurate than previously believed. According to a recent UCLA study, emotional distress activates one of the same parts of the brain as physical pain. Researchers...

Another bitter (diet) pill.(Body Wise)(Brief Article)
April 1, 2004... WITH THE RECENT FOOD AND DRUG Administration ban on ephedra, another "natural" weight loss supplement is already poised to take over. Bitter orange is made from the peel of the Seville orange, Citrus aurantium, and its active ingredient is...

Invisible exercise of the month.(Body Wise)(Brief Article)(Column)
April 1, 2004... For strong bones and shapely legs, try this move: Kick off your shoes, rise up on tiptoe, then drop back down to your heels. Do this 50 times a day in any combination (25 in the morning, 25 at noon, whatever suits you), and in six months you'll...

Time heals ... eventually.(Body Wise)(aliments and recovery )(Illustration)
April 1, 2004... Part of the torment of falling sick (or just plain falling) is lying around wondering when you're ever going to feel better. That's when many people make the mistake of hobbling about before they should, then end up prolonging the agony. Here's...

The Home Depot[R] presents: Claudine McHie & Paul Cooper.(Special Advertising Section: The Home Depot)
April 1, 2004... When her neighbor wanted to introduce Claudine to a friend, she said she'd give him ten minutes before going to the gym. After meeting Paul, the minutes became hours. Within six months they were walking down the aisle. "Above and beyond his...

Merger: designer Fernando De Moraes vision.(Special Advertising Section: The Home Depot)(Advertisement)
April 1, 2004... Color: To unify Paul's art collection, Fernando chose a strong, earthy color (Behr Premium Plus[R] New Brick) in a low-gloss, easy-care eggshell finish for an accent wall reminiscent of the exposed brick in an artist's loft. "Paul's paintings...

The home depot: pro tips for flawless floors.(Special Advertising Section: The Home Depot)(Advertisement)
April 1, 2004... #1 A Workforce wet saw efficiently cuts tiles down to the correct size at the edges of a pattern and around molding. "Wear a dust mask and goggles," advises Merge's transformation supervisor, Charles Owens. "And guide the tile through slowly...

The home depot how-to: floor planning.(Special Advertising Section: The Home Depot)(Advertisement)
April 1, 2004... #1 "To create a balanced pattern all the way around the edges, find the center point by dividing the length and width in two and drawing lines across the floor," says Locas. From the center point you can determine how many tiles you will need...

Unveiling a modern classic.(Special Advertising Section: The Home Depot)(Advertisement)
April 1, 2004... Feeling inspired? At The Home Depot there are miles of tiles to choose from depending on your needs and decor theme. Mosaic tiles, which are less than 2 square inches, and decorative borders are often sold in sheets, making application easy....

No time for exercise: you say you'd love to get more exercise, but you don't have time? That's what these five women thought--until we put them in the hands of professional organizer Julie Morgenstern and fitness coach Karen Voight. At the three-month mark, we checked in.(Body Wise)
April 1, 2004... "Creaky knees." "The dog ate my sneakers." "The kids have taken over the treadmill to stage hamster races." People find all sorts of reasons to avoid exercise, but the most common excuse is that we just don't have the time. With...

The incredible shrinking stomach.(Body Wise)
April 1, 2004... Singer Carnie Wilson, weatherman Al Roker, and more than 100,000 other obese Americans cut through their weight problems with gastric bypass surgery, only to discover it's not as simple as snip snip, you're thin. AIMEE LEE BALL reviews the...

The way to eat: counteracting a zippy metabolism ... finding mercury in Nemo ... and how safe are frozen low-cal desserts? David L. Katz, MD, gives you the medical lowdown.(Body Wise)
April 1, 2004... Q I was trying to be healthy by eating lots of fish. But news about mercury and PCBs has me confused. Any advice?--SYNEETRA HILL, NEWARK, NEW JERSEY Sadly, your concern is justified. Eating fish is still good for you, but these days it...

Reading room.(Brief Article)
April 1, 2004... The Glamorati How did British celebrity photographer Terry O'Neill get his hypercool images of everyone from Martin Amis to Mae West? "Compliments," admits the master in Celebrity: The Photographs of Terry O'Neill (Little, Brown). "That's...

Pride and privilege: a rich man's son finds wildness and tragedy in New Guinea.(Reading Room)(Brief Article)(Book Review)
April 1, 2004... WHEN YOUNG STEPHEN HESSE ENTERS THE RAIN-forest of New Guinea, he finds a world where his father's millions seem to make no difference. Here, he thinks, money and privilege won't insulate him from the vivid realities of life. Samantha...

The a word: what's the matter with a little naked ambition? Two provocative looks at the last female taboo.(Reading Room)(Book Review)
April 1, 2004... In June 1999, I was invited to a women-only dinner in Washington, D.C., that was to be filmed as part of a documentary series examining how we lived on the brink of the new millennium. The cast was incredible--from Supreme Court justice Sandra...

The builder's tale: blue-collar confronts blue blood in this stunning debut novel.(Reading Room)(Brief Article)(Book Review)
April 1, 2004... In fourth grade I was forced to memorize Longfellow's "The Village Blacksmith," and the one phrase that has managed to stay with me is his "large and sinewy hands." Jerry McGuinty is not the village blacksmith but the galvanizing force at the...

The disappearing male: if you think it's hard to find a man now, just wait 125,000 years.(Reading Room)(Brief Article)(Book Review)
April 1, 2004... YOUR MOTHER MAY HAVE TOLD YOU THAT THE WAY TO A MAN'S heart is through his stomach. But Adam's Curse (Norton), a new book by geneticist Bryan Sykes, suggests that anyone who really wants to fathom the secrets of the male psyche would be wise to...

Thoroughly chast-ized.(Reading Room)
April 1, 2004... The wryest pen since Dorothy Parker's belongs to cartoonist Roz Chast, whose stressed-out soccer moms, crabby grabby children, wistful husbands, underachievers, self-deceivers, schlubs, grubs, and hypochondriacs (in other words, you and...

Finding faith: to be young, black, and Buddhist--a luminous memoir of discovery.(Reading Room)(Brief Article)
April 1, 2004... FAITH ADIELE WASN'T LOOKING FOR RELIGION. SHE WASN'T LIKE THE other maechi, the ordained nuns who surrounded her in the Thamtong monastery in Thailand's Golden Triangle. Child of a Scandinavian high school teacher and a Nigerian academic, on...

A life, stolen: gorgeous writing, eerily moving--a dark new novel.(Reading Room)(Brief Article)(Book Review)
April 1, 2004... The haunted narrator of Trezza Azzopardi's tantalizing new novel, Remember Me (Grove), is a woman who has lost everything. After a mysterious thief in the night steals her few, treasured possessions, Winifred (variously known as Patsy, Lillian,...

Biblio: recommendations from our shelf to yours.(Reading Room)(Book Review)
April 1, 2004... * Politics is nothing if not personal. For Lourdes, the fledgling Cuban revolutionary in Teresa de la Caridad Doval's debut novel, A Girl Like Che Guevara (Soho), adoration of a fallen hero inspires romantic visions of self-sacrifice. But a...

Kathryn Morris: book 'em; Mischievous monkeys, pesky kids, and go-for-it self-help books have inspired the Cold Case actress's soaring, unconventional career.(Books That Made a Difference)
April 1, 2004... BACK WHEN MELROSE PLACE WAS BIG, I COULDN'T get a part on it if I jumped through fire. Or I'd go up for something like Doogie Howser, MD, and the casting people would say, "In a few years, you're gonna put your stamp on Hollywood." I'd think,...

"I didn't know what to say to you": what do you say to someone who's seriously sick? Susan P. Halpern explores the surprisingly simple etiquette of illness.(Healing)(Excerpt)
April 1, 2004... I STAND WITH MY HAND ON THE receiver. I want to call my friend Ginny, who has just been diagnosed with lupus, but my mind has reverted to when I was 7, and I think, What am I going to say? How am I going to say it? I forget that I'm calling...

A roof of one's own: she'd never owned, always rented. Never stayed put, always moved on. Then Beverly Donofrio fell in love with a Mexican town and took out a stake in her own life.(Home)
April 1, 2004... WHEN I WAS A KID, I BELIEVED I'D BECOME A princess and live in a castle, but then I got realistic and figured that I'd just move out of the public housing project one day and own my own home. By the time I was 51, I'd lived in another country,...

Oprah talks to Bono: the superstar U2 front man talks about his excellent marriage, his Irish gloom, his commitment to Africa, how truth unlocks creativity, and his fear of being "interesting.".(Interview)
April 1, 2004... Do you ever feel like you're just killing time? Is a lack of time killing you? This month we found 18 experts to tell us how they prioritize, we watch one woman figure out a great way to trim your to-do list, we learn how to get out the door a...

Stealing time: they're movers, shakers, list-makers, delegators, and super-prioritizers. Nicole Keeter asks a stellar panel of organizational experts and supremely well-organized men and women the question of the hour: How can we get time on our side?
April 1, 2004... It's finite, it's precious, it zooms by faster every year. This month we try to get a grip on time. Does how much you seem to have depend on where you live, or is the shortage worldwide? To find out, we asked five women with comparable jobs in...

12 ways to get out the door faster.(Brief Article)
April 1, 2004... Julie Morgenstern, O's organization columnist, sums up the key to leaving on time in the morning in three words: the night before. The more you prepare then, the swifter you'll be the next day. Read on for postdinner plans and other smart ways...

The rest of her life: her high-stress job was eating her alive. She had no downtime at all. Then Mary Lou Quinlan took a five-week vacation. She had no idea she was about to reinvent her life. A recovering workaholic explains it all to you.
April 1, 2004... I'VE ALWAYS BEEN A TYPE A, HARD-working girl, from babysitter to candy striper to part-time bank teller during my college years. My parents taught me that I could do anything and be anything I wanted to be. The good news: I believed them. The...

See how they run.
April 1, 2004... Does where you live have anything to do with how busy you are? Would you be more laid-back in Los Angeles? Less pressured in Paris? In the interest of scientific research, we checked our own diaries against those of of our counterparts in four...

The truth about mommy time: new mother Lisa Kogan had a choice--she could write this article, or she could wash her hair.... Does anybody have a hat?
April 1, 2004... ONE YEAR AGO THIS MONTH, I TOOK a second job. And though it doesn't offer a dental plan, sick leave, vacation pay, profit sharing, a Christmas bonus, an expense account, a 401(k), or even a company softball team, it does provide plenty of job...

Enough, already! To do or--what the hell--not to do. Michelle Burford takes on the tyranny of the daily list and emerges with a triumphant new perspective.
April 1, 2004... No matter how many Palms I've acquired (three) or how much time stealing, time stretching, and time bending I attempt (plenty), I always find myself up against a certain mathematical law: Thirty-two hours' worth of tasks can't be crammed into a...

The children's hours: her friends' kids have schedules to rival a CEO's. But her own two boys spend their weekends in a pajama-clad idyll of board games, sick jokes, impromptu backrubs, and pleasure in the moment. Lisa Wolfe makes the case for nothing-doing.
April 1, 2004... I HAVE A CONFESSION: NEITHER OF MY sons plays an instrument. They don't get enough Spanish or sports. And yet, on many weekends, even as their friends go to violin or soccer or language lessons (or, in some unnerving cases, all three), even as...

You know you're too busy when ...(Brief Article)
April 1, 2004... ... you eliminate moisturizer from your nightly routine to save 20 seconds. ... you feel decadent for taking time off for oral surgery. ... you offer your trainer more money if he will let you off early. ... waiting for the light...

One dish two ways: no, you're not seeing double (you're just eating that way). O food stylist Rori Trovato, author of Dishing with Style, puts two different spins on one batch of ingredients.
April 1, 2004... ABOUT A YEAR AGO, A FRIEND WHO KNOWS I'm crazy about pie gave me a magazine with an apple pie on the cover. The top crust was made entirely of little pieces of dough that had been exactingly shaped into leaves, each one etched with tiny veins...

Breathing space: wander barefoot through this cherry orchard in northern Michigan. Feel the cool, slender blades of grass slip between your toes.
April 1, 2004... PHOTOGRAPH BY ED MCKINNEY/PANORAMIC IMAGES

Skin magic.(skin care tips)
April 1, 2004... Just a few cell layers down from the skin you see in the mirror is the skin you'd love to see--smoother, plumper, fresher. In a word, newer. But how much scrubbing, sloughing, and peeling does it take to get down to that layer? How much...

After violence, the possibility of healing: coming face-to-face with the people whose horrifying crimes forever altered their lives, some victims are finding a measure of peace, control, and resolution. So--surprisingly--are some criminals. Jan Goodwin reports on the fast-growing nationwide movement known as restorative justice.
April 1, 2004... It was 8 P.M. by the time Jan Brown returned home from work. The phone was ringing as she walked in. Too exhausted from the long day, she ignored it at first, until she heard her ex-husband on the answering machine starting to tell her that...

The yellow pages: a hint of the year's major tint--a sunny hat or lemon leather bag--is enough to get you glowing.(Fashion)
April 1, 2004... Caption: PRAY FOR RAIN--it showers the flowers and lets you test your new rosebud-strewn boots. Tamara Henriques, $118: 646-613-8772. [ILLUSTRATION OMITTED] Caption: WE'VE GOT A CRUSH on this bag: It's unstructured yet shapely, thanks...

Soak and ye shall find ... serenity, energy, good cheer. Spa expert Amy McDonald knows how to turn an everyday ritual into a bliss-a-thon.(Beauty)(Brief Article)
April 1, 2004... Here's one thing you'll probably never hear about--speed bathing. "Taking a bath is an acknowledgment of your intention to relax," says Amy McDonald, spa program director at Miraval in Arizona. Her number one tip: If you can spare only a few...

Modern times: you're in good hands with these wall clocks. Functional but never humdrum, they deliver the time in brilliant color.(Home)
April 1, 2004... PUT UP A HAPPY FACE. 1. A show of hands is all there is to this minimalist timepiece. Karlsson, $48; 866-755-9079. 2. Yellow is a good kitchen color--like a sunny window, it cheers you while you cook. Infinity Instruments, $36; 877-360-2657. 3....

One dish, two ways; It's all in the presentation: tomato fennel soup, lime-chile chicken, a happy birthday cheesecake (for story, see page 218).(The Recipes)
April 1, 2004... All recipes are adapted from Dishing with Style (Clarkson Potter), by Rori Trovato. Grilled Tuscan-Style Steak with Focaccia Salsa [ILLUSTRATION OMITTED] Steak: 2 (24- to 32-ounce) porterhouse steaks, or 4 (10-ounce) rib eye or...

Shop guide (all prices are approximate).(Buyers Guide)
April 1, 2004... COVER Jil Sander suede jacket, $3,139, Jeffrey, NYC and Atlanta. Etro cashmere sweater, $390; 212-317-9096. Cambio jeans, $150, Saks Fifth Avenue. Nicholas Varney pearl earrings, $6,800, Greenleaf & Crosby, Palm Beach, FL. Elizabeth Locke...

What I know for sure: "how you spend your time defines who you are".
April 1, 2004... I AM MORE AWARE OF TIME NOW than I have ever been. Something about turning 50 does that to you, I guess. I feel an almost primal awareness in the core of myself that there's a finite amount of time left, and that feeling permeates everything I...