Daughters articles from October 2000

Daughters archives from October 2000

Evelyn Bassoff on letting others in.(Interview)
October 1, 2000... Psychologist Evelyn Bassoff begins her book, Cherishing Our Daughters: How Parents Can Raise Girls to Become Strong and Loving Women (Dutton, 1998), with a retelling of the tale of Briar Rose, better known in our culture as Sleeping Beauty. At...

Is she too grown up for her age?(Let's Talk)
October 1, 2000... (Daughter watches TV. Mom enters the room and looks at the screen.) Mother: "My gosh! What's that?" Daughter: (without looking up) "It's just music videos." Mother: "I don't think you should watch that channel." Daughter:...

Family meetings.(Keeping Time)
October 1, 2000... You've been offered a job in a different city. Should the family move? You decide to hold a family meeting, but where do you start? Get organized. Check everyone's schedule and set a meeting time. Decide on the meeting's length in advance,...

Editor's desk.(Editorial)
October 1, 2000... One of my daughters is learning to play the dulcimer. After dinner, she sits in the dining room strumming the jangling strings. "Listen to this," she calls to me in the kitchen, and the chords fall into line, become a melody. I set a wet dish...

Soft drinks, soft bones.(News to use: reviews, research and new ideas)
October 1, 2000... Teenage girls who drink soda, particularly cola, are far more likely to break bones. A Harvard-based study of 9th- and 10th-grade girls found that gifts who drink carbonated beverages of any type are three times more likely to suffer fractures...

Perceiving the risks.(News to use: reviews, research and new ideas)
October 1, 2000... The more intelligent a girl is, the longer she delays sexual activity. That's the finding of a study conducted at the University of North Carolina. Why do smart girls wait longer at every stage, from kissing to intercourse? After two years of...

Periods and pimples.(News to use: reviews, research and new ideas)
October 1, 2000... Will your daughter have severe acne in her teens? The hormonal surges that trigger both periods and acne hold a clue. If her first breakouts appear after she has had menstrual periods for two years or more, she's not likely to get serious acne....

Online offenses.(News to use: reviews, research and new ideas)
October 1, 2000... Nearly half our daughters have seen websites they know we would find offensive. How can we protect them from unsavory material? Family rules don't always help. A study from the Safe America Foundation found that virtually all parents consider...

Stars who smoke.(News to use: reviews, research and new ideas)
October 1, 2000... The characters played by actresses our daughters admire are smoking in higher numbers. A study from the Harvard School of Public Health confirms that Gwyneth Paltrow, Winona Ryder and other young female stars are more likely to light up...

Brain gain.(News to use: reviews, research and new ideas)
October 1, 2000... We've always known that a girl's pubescent body grows dramatically. Now we know her brain does, too. New research from UCLA reveals that when girls are between ages 10 and 12, their frontal lobes grow almost as fast as they did during infancy....

Is it wrong for her to like him?(Parents' Forum)
October 1, 2000... "My 13-year-old daughter is going steady with a boy who smokes, curses and is always in trouble. He is not the kind of boy she usually is drawn to. She has asked me, 'Is it wrong for me to like him?' What should I tell her?" C.C.,...

Chore war.(Working It Out)
October 1, 2000... Are chores a problem at your house? Here's how one mom and daughter are working it out. Jayne: "We have a really active family. As soon as we're done with one activity, we're off to the next. Household cleanup has never been a priority for...

Should she work during the school year?(Career)
October 1, 2000... When 15-year-old Alison wanted to get a part-time job at a produce store during the school year, her mother, Glenda, agreed to let her try it. Alison loved her job, and a visit to the workplace showed Glenda why. This was a world where her...

Winning--even when she loses.(Sports)
October 1, 2000... Ten-year-old Elena knocked over a hurdle and lost a close race for her track team. As she trudged toward her teammates, she hung her head and avoided meeting anybody's eyes. Seeing her daughter's discomfort, Elena's mother, Pauline, hurried to...

"You owe me".(Parent Journey)
October 1, 2000... Amanda was 14, and we'd had an awful month. She was talking back and arguing. My usual lectures, warnings and attempts at conversation weren't working. One day she was insisting that I do this and that for her. "Give me my allowance," she...

Teasing.(Her Dad)
October 1, 2000... One day my daughter was skulking around the house in a particularly bad mood. In my effort to banish her gloom and doom, I said, "Sweetheart, if those clouds over your head get any darker, it's going to rain fight here in the living room." The...